Advice I Think We Should Tell Children Is That When Adults Say Stuff Like ‘now That I’m An Adult

sometimes when I’m being especially self deprecating and convinced no one likes me I have to tell myself “you’re being goob. you are being goob right now”

ariana grande in vivienne westwood at the ‘wicked’ premiere

For me, being an AMAB enby, whenever I put on more “masculine” clothes I always feel like I’m performing masculinity, truly as a performance. Not to say that that’s bad, it isn’t, is just interesting to think/see this act of creation/interpretation I go through, is almost as if I’m an actor stepping in the shoes of a character.

Again, that’s not to say that this is something bad or that I’m not being truthful with myself, is just this self reflection and realization that gender at its core IS performance, a big compilation of arbitrary rules, gender is nothing but a play we all have a part in, some of us just have to go through auditions more than once.

I am The Traveler. I am the Queen of Cups.

FRIENDLY REMINDER:

transfem ≠ a trans amab person

transmasc ≠ a trans afab person

an afab person can be transfem

an amab person can be transmasc

an intersex person can be transfem/transmasc

someone can be transfem and transmasc

these labels aren’t talking about genitals, they’re talking about the intersection of being trans and identifying/presenting in a masc/fem way

I get that we normally use these terms in this way, but it just presents another form of binary thinking if there is no flexibility to these labels, which is pretty ironic considering these labels were made to be inclusive of nonbinary people.

By limiting the meaning of these labels, we only hurt Trans people. We exclude nonbinary people, multigender people, trans intersex people, trans systems, and so many more.

Still not 100% done but 💖💖💖

AGATHA ALL ALONG 1.07 Death's Hand in Mine

something silly i keep saying w friends