Leafy Sea Dragon Mermaid! [swoon]  (Ok, They’re All Cool, But I Have A Soft Spot For Leafy Sea Dragons.)

“Find what works for you and work it.“

I’m so glad that my mother was willing to raise my sister and myself to be weird and to accept that we would never be, and didn’t need to be, normal.  Unless you’re sharing living quarters with someone and their needs conflict with yours, make your space work for you.  Why try to make yourself live somewhere that doesn’t fit you, just for some illusion of normal?

Ridiculous yet effective ways to deal with Executive Dysfunction

Dealing with executive dysfunction and ADHD becomes so much easier when you stop trying to do things the way you feel like you should be able to do them (like everyone else) and start finding ways that actually work for you, no matter how “silly” or “unnecessary” they seem.

For years my floor was constantly covered in laundry. Clean laundry got mixed in with dirty and I had to wash things twice, just making more work for myself. Now I just have 3 laundry bins: dirty (wash it later), clean (put it away later), and mystery (figure it out later). Sure, theoretically I could sort my clothes into dirty or clean as soon as I take them off and put them away straight out of the dryer, but realistically that’s never going to be a sustainable strategy for me.

How many garbage bins do you need in a bedroom? One? WRONG! The correct answer is one within arms reach at all times. Which for me is three. Because am I really going to get up to blow my nose when I’m hyperfocusing? NO. In allergy season I even have an empty kleenex box for “used tissues I can use again.” Kinda gross? Yeah. But less gross than a snowy winter landscape of dusty germs on my desk.

I used to be late all the time because I couldn’t find my house key. But it costs $2.50 and 3 minutes to copy a key, so now there’s one in my backpack, my purse, my gym bag, my wallet, my desk, and hanging on my door. Problem solved.

I’m like a ninja for getting pout the door past reminder notes without noticing. If I really don’t want to forget something, I make a physical barrier in front of my door. A sticky note is a lot easier to walk past than a two foot high cardboard box with my wallet on top of it.

Executive dysfunction is always going to cause challenges, but often half the struggle is trying to cope by pretending not to have executive dysfunction, instead of finding actual solutions.

I love this idea!  However, I think you could do Midsummer Night’s Dream if you start and end the play outside (or next door, whatever) and use the large, labyrinthine coffee shop from Tempest for the woods.  Bonus points if the mechanicals do Pyramus and Thisbe as if it were set in a coffee shop!

Coffee shop AU, except the original media’s setting is otherwise largely unaltered – it just has a coffee shop in it now, or the nearest remotely plausible equivalent.

Eli Bosnick absolutely has the best response.  That image “says it all” only if you don’t think human lives are worth more than candy.

lmao😂/smh🙄

They are absolutely coming for contraception, on top of everything else listed above.  Legislation is in the works now to classify abortion as a homicide, beginning at the moment of fertilization.  That takes out many of the more effective forms of contraception.  We need to work together to stop this, or it will only get worse.

Hey. They’re coming for ALL OF US.

Didn’t want to append this to a well-written post about how conservatives in the US are angling to eliminate gay marriage. But.

They’re coming for gay marriage and for interracial marriage and “fornicators” (people who engage in consensual sex acts outside marriage*), and they’re going to ban contraception if they can. They’re testing steps to prevent co-housing too. Basically if you’re not a white Evangelical in a nuclear family with a desire to have hordes of children, your rights are in danger right now.

As long as we keep fretting about only our own groups, we’re not going to get very far. All of these civil rights were achieved through alliances between marginalized groups. We’re all in danger right now because we’ve allowed exclusionists – many of whom are bots or campaigns created by right-wingers – to divide us with nonsense about “ADOS” and “the q slur” and “class first” anti-woke leftism. Right-wingers have always understood that divide and conquer is the easiest way to deal with the left; we have always been a coalition of disparate groups with disparate needs that puts some of those needs aside when it’s time to fight for something. We’re not ready to fight right now. But we can start getting ready, and the easiest way to do that is to remember that you are not the only group under threat right now.

Boost other groups’ campaigns and attempts to raise awareness. Learn to exclude the people calling for exclusion, because most of them aren’t actually on your side. Read the histories of successful civil rights efforts, and pay attention to how they formed those alliances. This is work that takes years. Fixing everything that’s broken in our society cannot be done quickly or easily – but for fuck’s sake, try to get your head out of your navel and look around.  See your fellow soldiers, and put your shield alongside theirs, fast. We got incoming.

*Many states still have laws on the books that make everything from oral sex to shacking up illegal. And best believe Evangelicals want those laws enforced again.

Sometimes, Cards Against Humanity games get it right.  (I still prefer Bards Dispense Profanity though.)

This is great advice.  Does anyone know if it works for MD-shopping as well?

How do you (“how does one”) shop for a therapist?

Can you call up a therapist and be like “hi, I’m therapist shopping”? Can you schedule an appointment with a therapist and then be like “actually I have some questions and I want to spend part of this appointment talking about your practice and whether or not it is garbage?”? Are you expected to phone interview/screen your therapists if you are shopping around for a therapist?

If you’re seeing one therapist are you supposed to/not supposed to tell them if you start seeing another therapist? Is it possible to cheat on your therapist?

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If you don't have the manual for your car, you can probably find it online. Once you find it, download it! That way, if it gets moved or taken down because your car is older than the company wants to deal with, you still have a copy of the manual. (If your car is relatively new, you may be able to get a physical copy from a dealership, but they will probably charge for it.)

If possible, put the file on your phone so you have it available when you're away from home. Even if you only have access at home, at least you can look up things.

If you can't get a manual or your manual doesn't have instructions on changing a tire, print out instructions and put them with your spare tire. As other people have mentioned, having to change a tire almost always happens in miserable conditions. Having instructions easily available makes it less bad.

in the same spirit as those posts reminding you to drink some water and take your meds:

if you have a car, when’s the last time you checked your spare tire? because i know at least two people who’ve recently discovered that they couldn’t actually access their spare because they’d misplaced the necessary tool or some other thing. check your spare tire!! make sure you’ll be able to use it when you need it!!!

They’re so cute!

funky lil pride kitties!

planning on making them into holographic stickers ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

Last week, my boss gave me a folder with what she said was my quarterly evaluation.  This was inside.  Best Boss Ever!