I’m Tired Of You, Still Tied To Me// Hard Times, Ethel Cain

I have not seen one good reason as to why SydCarmy shouldn’t happen. Age gap? They’re maybe 2-3 years apart and both full grown adults. Power imbalance? They very clearly view each other as equals and respect each other deeply (I couldn’t do this without you, You were the best cdc in the u.s.) Professionalism? Many chefs and people who work in the culinary industry have said it’s quite common to have work place relationships. Carmy needs therapy? He can go to therapy AND be in a relationship, many people are. The Bear doesn’t need romance? There are many ships and many canon relationships (CarmyxClaire etc.), yet SydCarmy is the only one you don’t like. They’re better off as friends? Maybe, but many good relationships are a balance of friendship and partnership, so really they can remain besties and be in a romantic relationship.

Still losing it at the fact Carmy gave Claire a fake a number so she hunted down Fak to get his real number and people still think they’re cute

“There will be peace when you are done”

Like Him - Tyler, The Creator

The fact that some people still think Syd is inferior to Carmy or that they have a mentor/mentee dynamic after Carmy HIMSELF said “I couldn’t do this without you, I wouldn’t even want to do this without you, you make better at this” is actually insane

“As long is there is love, there will be grief”- Heidi Priebe

THIS!!! He’s far from perfect and his behavior has been questionable but he’s also unlearning everything he’s ever been taught and that takes time. We saw everything he internalized from the Chefs he worked with, the good and the bad, everything that made him who he is as a chef and a person. It’s going to take time and therapy to go through all that trauma and learn how to let go of things that aren’t benefiting him. Carmy’s got a long way to go in the healing process but so does Syd and maybe they can do it together

ngl watching how some of y’all talk about Carmen makes me so fucking depressed as someone with a lot of baggage and trauma

no one said you have to put up with bullshit behavior forever, but if you think that someone who was torn down every day of their life is gonna be perfect the moment they realize they have a problem to fix in themselves, you’re going to be disappointed. repeatedly. forever.

none of y’all deserve Sydney either, bc she’s a damn good depiction of what it’s like to be someone who loves and cares for someone who’s fucked up. A side of the equation I ALSO happen to be familiar with. you hold that person accountable for shit behavior, back away when you need to for your health, and because you love them, you fucking come back.

Idk what kind of interpersonal relationships y’all have that can so easily be thrown away the moment shit isn’t perfect the way YOU need it, but this fucking “I don’t owe anyone anything least of all my shoulder to cry on” mindset sucks dick and balls when applied to media as much as it does in real life.

People are burdens. Plain and simple. Community requires sacrifice, love and partnership requires sacrifice. Or at the very fucking least: compromise.

Like. If you met someone who understood you better than anyone, a person whose entire life has been parallel to yours in a way that uniquely binds the two of you, y’all would really just fucking walk away WITHOUT SAYING ANYTHING just because they’re hurting and lashing out? Because that’s what y’all are advocating for, and that’s the fucking problem.

So many of y’all have this “I shouldn’t have to speak up and set a boundary” mindset. you just fucking sulk and stew in it and then blow up because you never set your foot down when you needed to.

Even if Sydney walks away from Carmen, she needs to fucking speak up or she’s gonna get walked on AGAIN. She deserves better but she also has to fucking ask for it. And that’s entirely separate from the fact that Carmen needs to pull his head out of his ass.

Either way, I think we would all do well to fucking self-reflect.

They’re so very Hard Times by Ethel Cain coded

[gun shot]

Should’ve taken the hint when he gave you a fake phone number