I Want A Mommy Too

I want a mommy too

I thought becoming a mother would heal me

Although my son’s tender cuddles do warm me

It does not console my inner lonely child

I thought having a good mother in law could do

Although her support and strength inspire me

Her presence isn’t soothing to my brokenness

I’ve tried to fill this void in many ways

Yet I find myself having to accept the absence

Of a mother who is unconditionally there

A mother who knows me because she is me

A mother who loves me because I am hers

A mother who doesn’t judge and just shows up

A mother who feeds me without me asking

I’ve met many wonderful mothers who love me

They say they feel motherly towards me

They say they see me as another daughter

But I can feel the distance

And it’s not because they don’t love me

And it’s not because they don’t mean their words

It’s only because no one can love you like yours

I tried so many times to get mine to love me

Despite her illness and despite her toxicity

But she has no love to give

She has no capacity to take any responsibility

She can’t fill the void for she is a void herself

She has no warmth even for herself

She only takes from others

She forced me to not only be motherless

But to give her motherly love

And I wonder

If I’ve lived other lives

Did I have good mothers?

Because this lonely feeling has always felt familiar

As a little girl, it felt fitting to be alone

The abuse and neglect didn’t feel so shocking

And oh the despair, to feel fated to this

To feel like there’s no place to flee this

This desperate feeling

This dreadful feeling

This deafening feeling

That this kind of love I yearn for just isn’t for me

-PF

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1 year ago

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2 years ago

Ok

Pov: you are autistic

You got your headphones on. You're playing loud soundtracks from anime/video games/movies etc, you're vibing out, you pretend you're running at bad guys, dragons, monsters, whatever, ready for battle!

BUT!

Somebody WALKS into the same room as you WHILE you are having this vibing stimming moment and you see them, and you feel SO embarrassed like you got caught with your hand stuck in the cookie jar.

Like

Fucking RUDE!!

I was in the MIDDLE of something.

DO

YOU

MIND?!!!!

1 year ago

Me: I don't know which of these things is my favorite.

Also me: You can call both of them your favorite.

Me: No, whichever is my favorite defines me. And A has always been my favorite. B is more of a recent favorite.

Also me: ... why can't both be your favorite?

Me: BECAUSE MY FAVORITE DEFINES ME.

1 year ago

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2 years ago

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4 years ago

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1 year ago

I hate the idea that I have to be good and well-behaved bc I'm disabled. I'm an evil little guy who exists to cause mischief in a redneck town

1 year ago

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2 months ago

if USPS has a million fans, I'm one of them

if USPS has 5 fans, I'm one of them

if USPS has 1 fan, that is me

if USPS has no fans, I'm no longer alive

if the world is against USPS I'm against the entire world

till my last breath I support USPS

I joke but actually USPS is the literal lifeline for so many housebound disabled people who receive lifesaving medications through it- especially housebound people in rural areas. so many private shipping companies do not serve rural areas. try getting anyone else to drive hours into the middle of nowhere to deliver. try it. not all disabled people live in urban areas. USPS saves disabled lives ‼️ without USPS many housebound disabled people will die.

USPS is a disability rights issue

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I go by Bisho. I'm chronically ill, Autistic, and Physically Disabled. I love Horror Games and Kirby so much. I suck at social interactions online and in person.

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