ADHD Tips From A Girlie Who Was Diagnosed In Her Late Twenties And Has Had Little To No Support Since

ADHD tips from a girlie who was diagnosed in her late twenties and has had little to no support since and is being so brave about it:

1) Make it easy, make it accessible, and make it appealing. If anything this is the most important thing, all tips going forward are based around this concept.

2) That thing you think would help you but you haven’t bought/done it yet because you’re technically surviving without it? Buy it, you need it. It doesn’t matter if people around you might think it’s wasteful or that you’re lazy, you’re not, just do it, trust me.

3) Expanding on tip #2, if you’re like me and eggs are your main source of protein because they’re quick and easy and feeding yourself is a near insurmountable task- buy yourself an electric egg cooker, make a bunch of hard boiled eggs and keep them in your fridge for quick and easy protein to add to any meal (handful of crackers, a hard boiled egg and a banana? 5 star meal right there. Or mash them up with some mayo for egg salad sandwiches). Other easy proteins include: potstickers (put them in instant ramen), edamame (they have microwaveable snack packs), chickpeas (put in salads!), beans (can of beans microwaved with shredded cheese and some tortilla chips), peanut butter (with crackers, apple and cheese, adult lunchable style), and tofu (cut into cubes, throw them into a ziplock with some seasoning and potato starch, shake that shit up and bake it until crispy).

4) Spend a little extra (if you are able) on daily use items that excite you, it will make you more likely to remember/want to do said daily task. For example: the only reason I remember to use sunscreen is because I bought some fancy japanese sunscreen that smells like roses so I get excited to use it, same for laundry detergent and body wash! there’s a gajillion different body wash scents out there, switch it up!

5) If there’s a task you continuously struggle with take a moment to think about which part of the task is making it difficult, it could be something even as small as “I don’t put my dirty clothes in the hamper because my hamper has a lid on it and lifting the lid is one step too many-”, sounds a little stupid huh? But trust your gut, it’s not stupid if it works. See tip #2 and BUY A HAMPER WITHOUT A LID.

6) If you are having trouble starting a task, break the task down further, sometimes the way I start a task is just by going “Ok step 1) stand up-“ and so forth. Don’t worry about the task as a whole just take it one step at a time.

7) If you’re halfway through a task and have to stop, leave it out. All this, “Put things away when you’re done with them.” is bullshit. you will be much more likely to finish the task if restarting it is easier because you left it out plus it’s a visual reminder. You can also create faux deadlines like “I gotta finish this project before my friend comes over on tuesday because after I finish it I can clean off the dinner table.” etc.

8) It’s okay to outsource tasks and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise, humans are designed to ask for, and to require help (what do babies do when they’re first born?? cry for help!!) ask for help and receive help without shame, if it makes your life better, you are WINNING.

9) If you have one big overwhelming task that you think you need to get done before anything else, but you feel motivated to do other tasks, do those other tasks first, it’s okay. Otherwise in all likelihood (at least in my case) you’ll put everything off until the last minute and then have to do said overwhelming task and those other tasks won’t get done at all. Doing those smaller tasks also lowers the mental load and you can use them as a motivation launch pad to tackle bigger things.

10) If you notice you tend to not put something away/forget to do something, perhaps consider moving and storing the item closer to where it ultimately ends up or where you are more likely to see it. For example, my makeup, pills, and mail are all stored on my desk because that’s where I tend to do my makeup, take my pills and deal with my mail. I used to store my pills in my bathroom medicine cabinet but all too often I would forget because they weren’t in my line of sight. Now that they’re on my desk, I have multiple chances per day to pass by them, go “oh I gotta take those.” and take them.

11) Open storage, open storage, OPEN STORAGE.

12) Motivation can look like all kinds of things. sometimes the only reason I get out of bed is because I remember I have a fun snack and I get to go eat it if I get up. It’s okay to lean into those simple “animal-brain” type motivators, you’ll eat because then you can use that fun new kitchen gadget you got a daiso? Neat. you’ll shower because then you can paint your nails that fun new color you got? Fantastic. You’ll go to the dmv and do that annoying thing because you’ll take yourself out for boba after? Superb. Lean-IN to those small motivators, they aren’t stupid or childish, they are VITAL.

13) Don’t buy into the cult of “if it’s worth doing, do it properly” it’s guaranteed to set you up for failure. If it’s worth doing, do it in whatever capacity you are able to. I put sunscreen on once a day because that’s fucking better than not doing it at all and I sure as all hell will fail at reapplying it multiple times a day. If it’s worth doing, do it half-assed babieeee.

Go forth and prosper!!! xoxo ✌️🩵

Self-insert/OC x Canon time!

I had a lot of fun with this, so I thought I'd start a little tag game :3

I made Lilia and myself with this Picrew 🥰 I'm tagging @hanafubukki @marigoldendragon @miss-moray-mirage @cancerdust96 @aliciagemsilica @saint-in-chains @rayroseu-reblogs @radgarda @ghostedinkheart @inkblot-mirror @roseapov-reblog but anyone is free to join!

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engelakiko

3 months ago

Harper: I want to give people warmth MC: Harper, put the gasoline and lighter back

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engelakiko

2 years ago

Those hearts on the cheeks…

Ren vs Angel's friends! …I'm sorry

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14 days with you 14dwy 💜 — 14dwy memes. I would watch such a cartoon Although....I have a game

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engelakiko

9 months ago

Drawing bases & references #27

someone suggested squid mermaids 🦑🦑

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engelakiko

4 months ago

Ayo tame yourself 🫵💋

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engelakiko

1 year ago

Leviathan NSFW Alphabet

A - Aftercare (what is he like after sex)

He's flustered but caring, he wants to be sure you're alright and enjoyed it. He'll give you all the cuddles you want.

B - Body part (his favorite body part, as well as his partner's body part)

Your eyes, he might not be able to look at them directly but loves looking at them knowing you're all his and you're there.

C - Cum (mostly anything to do with cum)

He loves covering you in his, even if he'd never tell but he loves the sight.

D - Dirty secret (his dirty secret)

He would love to get absolutely driven crazy while wearing a dress, and it's not to hard to drive him hard and ready.

E - Experience (how experienced is he? Does he know what he's doing?)

No, just knows a few things from hentai.

F - Favorite position (his favorite pose)

Cowgirl, he isn't confident to take charge but loves to look at you, even if he can't look you in the eyes. Loves knowing that you're there and are truly his.

G - Goofy (is he serious? humorous? etc..)

Shy. Very shy.

H - Hair (how well groomed is it?)

It's a bit unruly down there at first, but after you start off your sex life with him he'll start trying more to try and impress you.

I - Intimacy (how romantic is he?)

He does his best, weather it's an indoor picnic or just a gift of your favorite show/game he tries to show his love for you no matter what.

J - Jack off (masturbation)

Often. Once every two days at the least.

K - Kink (one or more of his kinks/fetishes)

Deprecation and praise.

L - Location (favorite places)

His room. He love's having you all to him, without anyone else who can interrupt your time together.

M - Motivation (what turns him on)

Seeing you want him or you praising him. No matter where he just loves it and wants to show his love however he can.

N - No (what he wouldn't do)

Share you, his envy could never allow himself to have you but share you with another. He just doesn't like it.

O - Oral (prefers to give or receive?)

Give, just want's to please you.

P - Pace (is he fast and rough? slow and sensual?)

Whatever you want, but if he's overstimulated or close he can't help but slow down unless you're topping him.

Q - Quickie (does he like fast sex)

He doesn't, when you're sexual he would rather have all the time he can have.

R - Risk (does he like experiments/risks)

Likes experiments unless there's risk. He gets to nervous.

S - Stamina (for how many rounds it is enough)

One is enough for him but if you want he'll keep going until you're satisfied, even if he gets overstimulated.

T - Toys (does he have toys? does he use them?)

Has them for himself but would never tell you unless you asked out of embarrassment.

U - Unfair (does he like to tease)

Your thighs, just loves grabbing them and rubbing them.

V - Volume (how loud it is, what sounds it makes, etc.)

LOUD AS HELL! He isn't use to this and no matter how he tries to stop he can't help moaning your name as his hands grab on to your waist.

W - Wild card (random headcannon)

If he ever tops he would love to try doing you while in his demon form.

Y - Yearning (his sexual attraction)

HIGH! He want's you so much it can drive him crazy, but he doesn't want to make you uncomfortable or mess up so he waits for you to start it. He's shy and may ask if you're sure but does want you.

Z - Zzz (how quickly he then falls asleep)

Slow, he'll stay up thinking about it, hoping he did well and pleased you. He overthinks, a lot

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engelakiko

6 months ago

I've been wanting to draw art with my OC - Akiko for a long time and I only got around to it(´ ∀ ` ). I wanted to post it on my birthday, but I didn't have time to figure out the text lol. Anyway, here it is - Engel Akiko, the youngest daughter of the four children of the Engel family(//ω//). Sooner or later I'll draw the rest of the family (Aiko, Iflis (I drew him once, but I'll try to draw official art(μ_μ)) and Shinho)

(Since this is my main OC, I will add it to the post with my main info)

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engelakiko

1 year ago

Yandere Head Canons:

My Purpose

Mad Scientist Husband x Reader x Yandere Clone

Now your husband, Dorian Goodman, truly believed he was doing you a favor with his newest creation… or should he say creations? He felt like a horrible husband by being away from you for long hours but he was allergic to pet dandruff so that was out of the equation… so why not clean himself? That way you wouldn’t be lonely! He only had his genius to blame for the horror he inflicted on you from this…

So imagine waking up to see your husband laying beside you in the bed still? His arms felt colder than normal and he smelled like preservatives… something was off but you couldn’t put your finger on it… his black hair was still long and beautiful just like his dark lashes. But something in your gut told you this wasn’t him.

And that’s when the figure beside you wakes up and gives you a bright smile. “I’m Dee. I’m your husband’s clone to keep you company while he’s away.”

You never shot up from the bed so fast to call your husband. You were extremely upset with him for creating a replica of himself rather than spend time with you himself… the nerve!

But your husband reassured you it was fine. That Dee was essentially him in every single way and that Dee could be your companion. He brushed off your concerns on this being cheating since Dee was a complete biological copy of Dorian himself but Dee could be deactivated by Dorian’s voice… it frustrated you. Why couldn’t he just leave his silly inventions behind and just spend time with his own spouse once and awhile? You were so lonely in this mansion…

But you didn’t take your frustration out on Dee. The poor clone was as clueless as you but he insisted he was created to serve you. Dee’s purpose was to take care of your needs

Dee would clean around the house and do the yard work. He was the complete opposite of the stoic Dorian. He felt more like a real human being than your own husband… minus how abnormally cold he was. He didn’t talk much but he was there. You started to grow attached to him

You spent a lot of time with Dee. He’d cover you with a blanket if you sat in your reading nook to read, he’d brew you your favorite coffee/tea, and he’d rub your shoulders. You constantly had to tell Dee that it was okay. That he didn’t have to be at your every beck and call but he would always say, “you’re my purpose.”

And Dee took notice of your sexual frustration when he peaked in on you touching yourself in the privacy of the bathroom within the glass shower walls. Curiosity began to settle in him. The cute whimpers and cries from your lips stirred something within him and he pushed the door open

You nearly screamed when Dee entered the bathroom, the only place he wasn’t beside you. But what shocked you more was the large erection in his gray joggers. It seemed he was more human than you thought and you were aching for something inside of you…

You let Dee have his way with you. He truly was a copy of your husband from how much he stretched you. Dee felt so good. He was so big and he was so strong. And he oddly smelled like your husband now… like clean linen and citrus. It was comforting and sexy. It was like Dorian was with your right now. Like Dorian was inside of you.

And in your passion it spilled from your lips once your orgasm rocked through you. Three little words that changed Dee forever, “I love you.” Dee held you while he rode you through your orgasm until his finally came. His strong arms held you up and his cheeks were filled with color. You loved him. You loved him. Dee didn’t want to ever be deactivated. Des wanted to be with you.

Dee would big spoon you every night. His large body pressed as close to yours as physically possible. There was a change in him. He was starting to become warm. Warm like a furnace. It was strange…. Dee became more and more human as the days turned to months. Your texts to your real husband became less and less but he probably didn’t even notice since he was busy with his inventions.

Dee would make you breakfast every morning and have his face between your legs to please you while you ate. Breakfast and sex became the norm for you and him. It felt so wonderful to feel wanted again. And every time, Dee begged you to tell him how you loved him. He would do anything to you to hear those words. Anything.

A shame you started to neglect your real husband. Dorian was shocked to see you folded up in a pretzel in your bed while Dee slammed into you like a mad man. This wasn’t what the clone was built for. He wasn’t built to fuck you. What the hell?

And that’s when Dee gave him a smirk. It was like looking in a mirror except there was something terrifying behind those ice blue eyes. Something sinister and Dorian didn’t like it at all. Dorian needed to get rid of Dee quickly… Dorian gave Dee one last look before he walked out of the room before you noticed

Dee kissed your head as he tucked you in. “I’m going to go get some water, okay?”

Dorian waited in the kitchen for Dee to come to him and the clone did. Dorian and him stared at each other for a few minutes before Dorian sighed.

“Deactivate.” Dorian told Dee but the clone remained standing there menacingly rather than deactivating like he was supposed to. “I said deactivate-“

And that’s when Dee launched himself toward Dorian and began to strangle him. His ice blue eyes filled with glee as the color slowly drained from Dorian’s face. An evil smirk on his face.

“It’s my purpose to make (your name) happy and there not happy with you so you can’t deactivate me anymore.” Dee whispered in Dorian’s ear. “They don’t love you. They love me.”

Dee ended up burying Dorian in the backyard before you woke up. He didn’t want you to be sad about your old husband any longer….

Dee slipped the ring he took off Dorian’s finger onto his. The shiny gold band now proudly on display. A smile on his face. Your real husband was with you now and he’d make you happy.

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engelakiko

2 years ago

I feel a little cringe, BUT I DON'T REGRET ANYTHING!

(now this is my favorite channel)

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14 days with you 14dwy 💜 — 14dwy memes. Now I imagined Ren talking about aliens ready to kidnap an Angel Or about conspiracy theories that everyone wants to hurt an Angel

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engelakiko

4 months ago

love and deepspace is so cute like yeah here’s my tamagotchi boyfriend whom i spent all my life savings on, isn’t he beautiful?

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