I Found Even More Fairy Dresses

Anxiety/mindfulness tip!

cold showers are so helpful, they force deep breaths and help balance the adrenaline system. most importantly, you can make everyone think youre a badass whos not afraid of anything (cold showers are a scary bikers biggest fear(i would know i, too, own a motorcycle(no i dont)))

god knew i'd be wayy too powerful if i was stable

In case you needed a reminder, you are deserving of tickles! You are deserving of love and kindness! You have people who love you and love to be around you! Go eat a snack or have some water or juice! Your hunger and body fluctuates day to day! Take your medication! Remember to love yourself and sleep well! 💖

hot take but i want to marry her

sh recov / harm reduction tips for those of us who are in the trenches and may be considering recov or trying to get there one day

⭐️ some people can't just throw away their sh tools and that's okay, but what i suggest is if you don't already to keep them in a hard to get to place so that you can reduce how often you may try to sh

⭐️ try to limit how often you relapse but dont put too much pressure on yourself because it may stress you out worse, id suggest slowly relapsing less by spacing them out more over time.

example: every day -> every other day -> twice a week -> once a week.. etc you get the point, if you cant stop cold turkey then try to reduce how frequently you sh because its just like any other addiction out there.

⭐️ keep in mind it takes about 3 weeks to make a habit, when going fully clean its really rough for those first few weeks but it wont stay that way, that isnt to say you wont have some bad days but it wont be every second.

⭐️ avoid buying new sh tools and new blades, if you plan to reduce or recover then stick with what you have so that you wont automatically have a new tool to hurt yourself with.

⭐️ if you burn yourself or you sh for pain specifically i suggest using (skin safe!) hot wax because it still hurts like hell when it hits the skin. usually these are used for like kink purposes but that also makes it easier to find in a way.

⭐️ for people who cut or need to see blood, some alternatives that work are using red food dye and applying it to something thats pointed but cant actually cut you and dragging it across your skin. another thing thats out there that provides both pain and blood without injury are sh pens! its hard to find these due to the internet censoring things however on platforms like tiktok using slight censorship in search like "self hrm recovery pen" will likely bring you to some results that could help.

⭐️ if you're broke like me or a minor etc and cant purchase tools online to help, id suggest using household items like thumbtacks for harm reduction. something that personally helps me is actually making fake wounds that are like.. actually fake and not real. to do this without any professional products use thin layers of liquid glue as your base and shape it like a wound, and use paint / makeup / whatever you've got. if you have sensitive skin this will probably make you itchy or poses a risk for a skin reaction so do be wary of that. when removing it should just peel right off as long as its fully dry, just be sure to wash the area afterwards.

⭐️ other reduction tips are the typical things people will say to do, surround yourself with friends and safe people if you can. surround yourself with safe items and things that make you feel comfortable and avoid triggers to your best ability. if you seriously are trying to recover please delete tumblr as consuming sh content will trigger you back into it fast.

if anyone has questions about specific circumstances or situations my ask box is open <3

recovery isnt easy but i really hope this helps somebody out there who may be considering getting better.

the hardest thing to cope with is that the scars might never fade, i accept them for the most part, because the people i care about love them as a part of me. but sometimes i struggle to understand that ill never feel safe leaving the house in a singlet.

CW - slightly suggestive under the cut

something that really helps is when my girlfriend kisses my scars or runs her fingers along them telling me shes proud of how far ive come or that im beautiful either way. that really really makes me smile and feel better

so glad im a tumblr girly, i was on edtwt the other day and when i tell you its the most disgustingly fatphobic community like. OMG theres threads of hindreds of pictures of just ppl existing holy shit😭

i dont know if i should keep using the tags i use, i put them there for reach but im worried if someone recovering goes into one it could be really triggering

idk what to do

i miss her so bad, she looks so lonely in class and she actively avoids me. i miss her personality, her warm words and silly anecdotes. i will feel forever guilty for being the catalyst for our drift. it wouldve happened eventually because, he and i clearly didnt mix. but it hurts that i lost such a good friend and we are both suffering.