Don't You Just LOVE How Families Work?

Don't you just LOVE how families work?

So, a while ago, I told my family, which consists of my Mom (33), Dad (37), little brother (10), and little sister (7), that I'm gender fluid.

A while back, before I told them, my sister and I dressed up our brother in a black and white checkered dress, a light pink petticoat underneath the dress, black high heels, a magenta scarf with silver sequins, and a light brown and black feminine sunhat. Afterwards, he let me do his makeup, too. We even gave him a gender bent name. Since then, we've dressed him up like that one other time.

After telling him what I meant when I told him I was gender fluid, he's started doing the same. Today, me, both of my siblings, my mom, and a friend of my sister's (also a 7 year old girl) were walking into town and my brother was walking in the front with myself and my mom bringing up the rear, the two girls in the middle. My mom started singing that "following the leader" song, finishing with "-wherever he may go." I joked around, saying, "Are you assuming his gender?" My mom responded with, "Yeah, until he tells me otherwise." So, I nudged my brother and said, "Well, are you going to tell her?" He shyly mumbled, with this slightly embarrassed grin, "I'm gender fluid." Our mother proceeded to ask what my brother identified as, getting a response of, "They/Them." She then proceeded to sing the ending of the same song, instead finishing with, "-wherever they may go," without asking questions or anything.

I've even talked to my mom about getting me masculine clothes to dress in since I only have feminine clothes. She really didn't care, and I mean that in the way of her completely accepting my request without any arguments or anything like that.

As much as I like how my parents accept me, it kinda hurts seeing as I have a friend who is asexual and pansexual (we like to joke around and say she's "a pan" because of this). The only issue is that her family's religion doesn't allow LGBTQ+. I'm not in any place to help her convince them otherwise, but instead am forced to watch from the sidelines. It especially hurts since her parents live on opposite sides of the country. She lives with her mom in Oregon (where I live, too) while her father lives in Georgia. Since she's semi intimidated by her father, it only makes it that much less possible for her to come out.

Now, I understand that it's pretty much impossible to change an adult's opinion on things like this, but I also know that the younger a person is, the easier it is to change their minds.

Wouldn't the world be a better place if we all either agreed to disagree or agreed that homophobia is honestly ridiculous? What is the point of homophobia? It doesn't hurt you or anything to even exist in the same space as a member of the LGBTQ+ community. What's the issue? We don't carry a disease or an infection or anything like that. I see no issues with us that should concern anyone.

Why don't we just get along? In the end, we're all still human.

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6 years ago

I needed this in my life. Now I'm satisfied.

Sans: What happens to nitrogen when the sun rises?

Sans: It becomes daytrogen.

Swap!Sans: I’m going to bed.

Sans: Good nitrogen.

Fell!Sans: Sleep tightrogen.

Outer!Sans: Don’t let the bedbugs bitrogen.

6 years ago

I wanna tell you guys a story,

Not too long ago, my friend Bella came out as aromantic to me, and now I’ve got some things to say.

I was the one who told her what aromantic means, because I was explaining different sexual orientations to her. I remember saying, “Asexualiy is when you have romantic attraction, but no sexual attraction.”

Bella immedently, without missing a beat, asked, “Is there an opposite to that?”

I asked what she meant, and she asked if there was a term for sexual attraction but no romantic attraction. I told her about aromantics. She got weirdly quiet, then excused herself.

Not two weeks later I was heading to my boat. I was supposed to meet Bella and another one of our muteral friends there for a day of fishing.

As soon as I was in earshot, I saw Bella storming off the boat, and our other friend standing there like an idiot. Boi had no idea what was happening.

Anyway, Bella isn’t looking where she’s going and walks smack dab into me. That’s when I realized she was crying. Puffy red eyes, wet cheeks, the whole nine yards… And if you know anything about Bells, she does not cry. Ever.

She’s been through some serious crap in her life, and she does not cry. She’s tough as nails. Bella has a steel core. She does not not cry. I’ve seen her fall off a roof and break her arm before, not a single tear. I can’t stress this enough, Bella. Doesn’t. Cry.

So seeing her in tears shook me. I took her by the shoulders and escorted her somewhere more private where we could talk. We ended up in the women’s restroom, which was weird as fuck for me, because haven’t been in a woman’s rest room for years. Luckily it was empty, and I’m realistic, I know I don’t pass so well, so I don’t think anyone would have said anything anyway.

Before I can even ask her what’s wrong she hugs me around my middle and burys her face in my hoodie. Then, in a voice I can only describe as traumatized, she says, “I think I’m broken.”

I’ve never seen her in so much pain, and Bella and I are CLOSE. She’s one of my dearest friends. She’s like my little sister, but if she’s like my sister, our other muteral friend is like her twin. He and Bella have know each other WAY longer, they’re practically inseparable. They come as a pair. They’re a duo. They’re a package deal.

Appearently, said muteral friend asked Bella out and forcefully kissed her. She shoved him off, and told him she’s aromantic, which she only recently figured out. She wasn’t ready to be out, but this muteral friend left her no choice. She tried telling him no, and he didn’t listen. Bella saw no other option.

Quote on quote, this is what he said to Bella. “That’s okay. You just haven’t dated me yet. We’ve been like, unofficially together for years. You’re probably just freaked out that it’s finally going somewhere.”

After that I’m not 100% clear on what happened, but apparently Bella kept saying no Nd trying to explain herself, but he kept insisting he could ‘fix her.’

Eventudally she started crying and stormed away. That’s when I found her.

Keep in mind, this was her first experience coming out, and her best, closest friend insisted he could fix her and forcefully kissed her. I found out later he also implied corrective rape would ‘solve the problem.’

Bella was traumatized. She’s still traumatized. I tried to make her feel better by buying her an aro pride shirt, and taking her go a local LGBTQ+ hang out. I wanted her to be around like minded people, so she could see she wasn’t broken, and her identity deserved to be respected.

Instead of a warm, welcoming environment… The first thing someone said to her was, “This place is for REAL lgbt people. You don’t belong here.” He also implied she wasn’t human.

Just think about that for a minute. Her first experiences with being an out aromantic have been limited to;

A person she trusted more than anyone forcing himself upon her, claiming she was ill, and needed to be fixed. (Raped.)

Sobbing in my arms in the women’s restroom because she thought she was broken and defective.

Being told she wasn’t welcomed in LGBTQ+ spaces and called inhuman.

This isn’t what I want for her. Bella deserves better than this. She needs a support system, not all this crap. I’ve spent the past week trying to undo all the damage exclusionists, arophobes, and people she trusted did.

Aromantics and asexuals belong in the LGBTQ+ community. You literally cannot change my mind.

4 years ago

Learning about the Great Depression in US History when you're a person who's part of multiple fandoms is like:

Joey Drew was the cause of the depression as Alastor just sat back and watched while they both laughed at society's suffering, everyone else being disappointed in the two of them.

I'd like to see literally anyone disagree, because am I really even wrong?


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6 years ago
Howdy! Over The Course Of Time, I've Made A Few Drawings. I'm Kinda Bored Right Now, And This Isn't All
Howdy! Over The Course Of Time, I've Made A Few Drawings. I'm Kinda Bored Right Now, And This Isn't All
Howdy! Over The Course Of Time, I've Made A Few Drawings. I'm Kinda Bored Right Now, And This Isn't All
Howdy! Over The Course Of Time, I've Made A Few Drawings. I'm Kinda Bored Right Now, And This Isn't All

Howdy! Over the course of time, I've made a few drawings. I'm kinda bored right now, and this isn't all of them, but I'll deal with those another time. 1) Cakes being smothered by there dorky friends, Sans, Asriel, and Flowey. 2) CorruptionTale Sno going through her corruption. 3) My own versions of the Asriel group from UnderTale. 4) A unicorn I drew out of boredom/for mine and my friend's amino. (http://aminoapps.com/c/FantasyGamer111 Feel free to join if you'd like to.) (Note: CorruptionTale belongs to me.) Please, tell me what you think about these. I put a LOT of time and effort into them. 😊

5 years ago

Okay, this has irritated me for a while now.

So, don't get me wrong, I absolutely love my hometown. I just have my limits and standards.

In my town, we have a Chinese and Japanese food baffet that has a variety of foods that's called "Kobe's Sushi Baffet." It's one of mine and my siblings' favorite places to go for dinner.

There's only one problem that I have with it that I can think of.

Okay, This Has Irritated Me For A While Now.

THAT MOTHER F***ING BANNER DRIVES ME BEYOND INSANE.

The "S" in the middle of the banner has been upside down for as long as I can remember and I ABSOLUTELY HATE IT. I can't even properly word how IRRITATED it makes me. It's just completely beyond the capabilities of any known languages in the entire universe. I- I just-

*incoherent frustrated yelling*

(Okay, I got that out of my system. Please carry on with your day/afternoon/night.)


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5 years ago
Precious Baby. Owo It Was A Little Irritating Because Of The Lack Of Color Options, But I Think It Still

Precious baby. owo It was a little irritating because of the lack of color options, but I think it still works out well.

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7 years ago

No internet, no online learning, that the average teen's nightmares coming true.

I’ll just leave this here

7 years ago

This is scaring me... You guys really did broke this thing. It didn't say anything then I tapped the heart then it said 1 note. Is this Satanism??? Cuz I'm terrified......

Reblog If You Can Take Off Your Bra Without Taking Your Shirt Off.

6 years ago

I must learn how to do this.

=3=….wut

5 years ago

This is the best thing I've ever seen in my life.

It's time for Animaniacs!

And we're zany to the max

So just sit back and relax

You'll laugh 'til you collapse

We're animan-iacs

Come join the warner brothers

And the Warner sister, Dot

Just for fun we run around the inky mystery plot

At us TAP will glower

Whenever we get caught

But we break loose

and still vamoose

and give this fic a shot!

We're animaniacs

Dot is cute and Yakko yaks

Wakko packs away the snacks

We'll have wolfie play the sax

We're Animaniacs

Meet Bendy and Boris who want to save this universe

Goodie Feathers helps out questers,

Felix rocks a magic purse

Holly chases Snowball, while cups' go converse

This writers flipped, we won't follow script, why bother to rehearse

We're animaniacs

We promise to keep up contact

We're zany to the max

There's baloney in our snacks

We're animany

Totally insaney

Breaking TAP's brainy

Animaniacs

Those are the facts.

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icekychan04 - Your Typical Multi Fandom Fangirl
Your Typical Multi Fandom Fangirl

Places like this need to exist. Here, you can speak with freedom. Go ahead and be as weird and crazy as you like. Ask me anything. (Just as long as it doesn't get too personal, of course. I'd love to keep myself to myself.) Just know that I can't answer everything. I'm still in highschool and I've got a lot of homework and it may take a while to reply. I'm female, and am demi-pan with a lovely girlfriend. Have a great day/afternoon/night! (My younger brother's Tumblr:) http://inflamed-person.tumblr.com

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