404 Not Found, Mr. Robot, 4.04

Bisexual hacker queen Darlene Alderson in every episode of Mr. Robot (Season 2). 

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Have I told y’all about my husband’s Fork Theory?  If I did already, pretend I didn’t, I’m an old.

So the Spoon Theory is a fundamental metaphor used often in the chronic pain/chronic illness communities to explain to non-spoonies why life is harder for them. It’s super useful and we use that all the time. But it has a corollary.  You know the phrase, “Stick a fork in me, I’m done,” right? Well, Fork Theory is that one has a Fork Limit, that is, you can probably cope okay with one fork stuck in you, maybe two or three, but at some point you will lose your shit if one more fork happens.  A fork could range from being hungry or having to pee to getting a new bill or a new diagnosis of illness. There are lots of different sizes of forks, and volume vs. quantity means that the fork limit is not absolute. I might be able to deal with 20 tiny little escargot fork annoyances, such as a hangnail or slightly suboptimal pants, but not even one “you poked my trigger on purpose because you think it’s fun to see me melt down” pitchfork.

This is super relevant for neurodivergent folk. Like, you might be able to deal with your feet being cold or a tag, but not both. Hubby describes the situation as “It may seem weird that I just get up and leave the conversation to go to the bathroom, but you just dumped a new financial burden on me and I already had to pee, and going to the bathroom is the fork I can get rid of the fastest.”

My fav trans writer just made this on her Twitter so I thought I’d share.

Darlene Alderson in Mr. Robot eps2.0 unm4sk pt1.tc.

”I don’t know what I’m supposed to do.”

Let’s make a run for it. Run where?

Trans folks in the US

If you haven’t legally corrected your name and gender markers, I would highly recommend doing so as soon as possible. Don’t procrastinate this. If you’re not sure how to change your documents then this map will walk you through the steps necessary in your state (or the state you were born in). This link breaks down exactly how to change the gender marker on your passport. If finances are preventing you from changing your documents then you can apply for a fee waiver to potentially reduce or eliminate the cost, though this is up to the judge’s discretion. You can also reach out to local or national organizations that provide financial assistance for trans people changing their documents. For example, the Trans Relief Project (national), Name Change Project (Colorado), or Kim and Elise Beaudoin Memorial Name Change Fund (Maine). I’ve procrastinated this myself and now, nearly 6.5 years into my transition, I’m finally taking the steps to amend my birth certificate.