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What Is Your Ego Self & How To Know If You Are Operating From It

The ego is a psychological concept that refers to the part of our identity that is associated with our sense of self, self-esteem, and self-importance. Our ego is the part of us that identifies with our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, and it helps us navigate the world around us by providing a sense of coherence and stability.

Operating from the ego self can mean different things for different people, but generally, it involves being identified with our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, and allowing them to influence our behavior and decisions. When we are operating from the ego self, we may be more focused on our own needs and desires, and less attuned to the needs and feelings of others.

Some signs that you may be operating from your ego self:

You are highly reactive to criticism or rejection. When your sense of self-worth is tied up in your accomplishments or external validation, you may feel threatened or defensive when others criticize or reject you.

You are driven by a need for control. When you are operating from your ego self, you may feel the need to be in control of every aspect of your life, and may struggle to let go of control or delegate tasks to others.

You are easily triggered by situations that threaten your sense of self-importance. For example, you may become defensive or angry when someone questions your authority or expertise.

You are highly self-critical. When you are operating from your ego self, you may be highly self-critical and may judge yourself harshly for perceived shortcomings or mistakes.

You are focused on achievement and success. When you are operating from your ego self, you may be highly focused on achieving success and may derive a sense of self-worth from external accomplishments or accolades.

Operating from the ego self can have both positive and negative effects on our lives. On the one hand, our ego helps us navigate the world and can give us a sense of stability and coherence. However, when our sense of self-worth and identity is overly tied up in our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, it can limit our ability to connect with others and experience true happiness and fulfillment.

Some reasons why it may be helpful to work towards operating from a less ego-driven perspective:

Ego-driven behavior can lead to conflict and tension in relationships. When we are overly identified with our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, we may be less able to see other people's perspectives or empathize with their feelings. This can lead to conflicts and misunderstandings in our relationships.

Ego-driven behavior can lead to stress and burnout. When we are focused on achievement and success, we may push ourselves too hard or neglect our own needs and well-being. This can lead to stress, burnout, and other negative health outcomes.

Ego-driven behavior can limit our growth and potential. When we are overly attached to our own beliefs and ways of doing things, we may be less open to new ideas and experiences. This can limit our growth and potential in both our personal and professional lives.

Ego-driven behavior can prevent us from experiencing true happiness and fulfillment. When our sense of self-worth is tied up in external accomplishments or validation from others, we may be less able to experience true happiness and fulfillment. This is because our happiness is always contingent on external circumstances and validation, rather than coming from within.

It's important to note that everyone has an ego, and there's nothing inherently wrong with operating from the ego self. However, when our sense of self-worth and identity is overly tied up in our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, it can limit our ability to connect with others and experience true happiness and fulfillment. By becoming more aware of the signs of ego-driven behavior, we can work to cultivate a more balanced sense of self that allows us to connect more deeply with others and experience greater happiness and well-being.

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how to be successful and study like elle woods ♡︎

“many people will tell you you can’t do something don’t let one of those people be you.”

BE CONFIDENT AND DONT UNDERMINE YOURSELF.

despite elle’s counselor trying to use her 4.0 gpa in fashion merchandising as her weakness and probably not taking her serious as a “intelligent” person at all, elle definitely used it as her strength and didn’t let that discourage her from pursuing harvard. it was a theme in the movie where people constantly misjudged elle based off of her appearance but she always shone bright regardless as she knew what she was capable of.

-drown negative opinions and ones that don’t serve you.

-highlight the things you’ve accomplished and the things you are good at.

-don’t be afraid to shine brightly as who you are.

-self validate yourself.

-be true to who you are not to who everyone else is.

-silence your self doubt.

PLAN ACCORDINGLY AND HOLD YOURSELF ACCOUNTABLE.

“if you fail to plan you plan to fail.”

elle started to learn about the lsats immediately after knowing she was going to apply for harvard. this prepared her for what was to come and she held herself accountable by studying instead of partying, not to mention studying long hours and doing practice tests, she put the work in to get the results she wanted.

-start planning by becoming more familiar about the things you need to learn.

-write everything out in a planner.

-make sacrifices temporarily to reach your long term goals.

HAVE A GOOD SUPPORT GROUP AND BE KIND TO EVERYONE. (including yourself)

elle’s friends were supportive of her while she studied for harvard even if they didn’t completely understand it. the people you choose to surround yourself are important because they have the ability to change your mindset on things. elle was a kind person to everyone and in return people wanted to do nice things for her back, like when she helped that guy get a date and he helped her get a book she couldn’t reach in the library.

-have friends who you can study with and friends that will cheer you on.

-show kindness to everyone you meet but stand up for yourself when necessary like what elle did.

STUDY IN DIFFERENT ENVIRONMENTS.

elle had different places where she studied, on the treadmill, outside while warner was playing football with his clasmates, while she was getting her hair done, with a friend that was helping her practice for the lsats, studying in a different environment is fun and can increase the chances of you focusing!

-study at a cafe.

-ask a friend if they want to have a study date.

-study somewhere comfortable outside.

-study in a new place in your house.

DO NOT SUPPRESS YOUR EMOTIONS.

a healthy thing that elle did was allowing herself to feel troubling emotions. when warner broke up with her she took the time she needed to cry and let it all out. this is a very healthy habit instead of suppressing everything inside for it to explode randomly later on.

-let yourself feel upsetting emotions and comfort yourself like your own best friend.

-journal your thoughts.

-mediate.

EXERCISE GIVES YOU ENDORPHINS AND ENDORPHINS MAKE PEOPLE HAPPY!

exercise!! even though elle was crunched on time and had to use majority of it studying she didn’t self neglect herself and took care of her body and mind by taking care of herself while she studied on the treadmill and at the salon! exercising is proven to help your emotions and to help you feel your best physically which is exactly what we need when we are studying too!

-create a schedule for when you can get some exercise in.

-choose an exercise that is right for you! ex: yoga, pilates, going on a run or walk, ballet, going to the gym, working out at home and etc!

MAKE LEARNING FUN!

elle was known for her signature pink everything and that included pink school supplies and cute supplies! everything doesn’t have to be dull and boring, buy supplies you need that you think is cute and that you like! buy different shaped note pads like elle’s heart shaped one!

-buy cute stationary! ex: pens, pencils, laptop covers, notebooks, highlighters, sticky notes, etc!

and there you have it! this was HIGHLY requested in my inbox, and @2pretty has a very very helpful post on how to study like elle woods too! <3

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