I just discovered non-dualism 3 days ago and I'm struggling to realize that this is natural. I want to get back with my ex-bf but I know he's with another girl right now and that makes me sick... I want to reconcile with him WITHOUT him dating another girl while we're separated. However, I saw physical evidence that contradicts this, and if I ever "succeed," I feel like I've changed something, not that "it was always like this", so it's not "natural" anymore. I don't know what to do.
There is no continuity. You recreate the scenario every day. It can be just as natural that he was never with anyone.
Read this
How funny because I went through something similar. Although I never made her disappear I just used her as his incentive to realize nobody could ever be as perfect for him as me and he made the biggest mistake of his life 🤪 the whole thing worked out in my favor; his behavior toward me changed magnitudinally. THIS IS YOUR DREAM. REALIZE THIS.
And if you reaaaally really find it hard to think that she never existed think of what you want her to represent to him.
Also read this on thoughts and be totally indifferent to any thought that arises that he's not absolutely head over heels for you.
And you can check the questions about past/future in the list so you understand why there is no time.
Finally, he was made by you and for you, what are you creating her for? 🤣 you bored like that? You like making yourself suffer? Are you masochistic? Forget her. She never was 😴
hello Fleur, I hope you're doing okay and having a great break. !!!
I know there's still about a month until you come back but I'm leaving my success story in your inbox regardless, lol :D
my journey with the law hasn't been easy, I've gone through the 5 stages of griefs not even kidding, Sammy Ingram who honestly fucked up my life and just many other disgraceful things but I won't get into that and instead I'll jump right into the success.
I finally FINALLY read Neville (a round of applause would be highly appreciated) and Edward + only stuck with one blog, yours.
I unfollowed all the blogs I used to follow, except yours; I took a screenshot of your posts that made it click for me, deleted Tumblr and applied.
(posts I saved were: "don't force just be" and "consciousness is the only reality")
In just 2 weeks of me applying, my life has honestly CHANGED. and I'm not even exaggerating, I made a list of what I wanted for this month, gave it to myself in imagination and moved on with my life, because let's be honest... would I be in Tumblr over consuming 24/7 if I had my desire(s)? NO!
the day after I gave my desires to myself in imagination, and just KNEW I had them... I started seeing my reality quickly shape into what I had written in my list, now I KNOW people are going to ask me about time.
and I'm just going to leave this right here.
the more you focus on "I'm still waiting for my desires to reflect" the more waiting you'll have! because the 3D only REFLECTS.
now onto the things I've manifested ! :DDD
-my parents giving me a Tesla for my birthday.
-a FREE trip to Venice, with my friends and family also for my birthday.
-huge sums of money out of nowhere.
-being a social butterfly.
-knowing how to drive + getting my license.
-20/20 vision.
-hairless body.
-my parents being more sweet and caring towards me.
-my sister being fully free from depression. (huge one)
-my desired boyfriend, with everything I've imagined and more.
-being able to shift instantly, I just came back from a 2 year shift at Hogwarts! :,)
-free clothes, and I'm talking about a BUNCH of expensive clothes.
-living THE life, parties every weekend, going out with friends, etc.
-blonde hair overnight.
-eye color change.
-bigger lips + perfect teeth.
-always being the perfect student, and having a perfect school life.
this is just some of the things I had written on my list, I'm so very thankful for you and your posts.
thank you! <3
i’m so sorry for the late response love, this was about a month ago! regardless, congratulations on your beautiful success. ♡ wishing nothing but the best for you.
https://www.tumblr.com/realisophie/726214306745712640/followed-this-anons-advice?source=share
So I saw this and decided to give it a try too on a fun example 😂 I woke up and my cat always walks away when I go to greet her in the morning and usually I'm like awww 🥲 but this time I imagined myself as my cat and thought about how much I loved Vanessa and wanted to snuggle with her lotsss. After getting into that knowing feeling, I let it go and forgot about it. Until now (like an hour later), when I'm trying to meditate and my cat is suddenly super loving on me and sitting on my lap which she hasn't done in ages 😂 I was almost about to think it didn't work at first, cos right after I imagined and returned back to being Vanessa, my cat was going about her business as usual ignoring me lol. But I just ignored all that (both thoughts and the dream) and decided to let it go and not think about it anymore. I think that's key. Also not taking it seriously helps with letting go (it's all just a dream so do whatever and have fun, right?). But like help, I need to pee rn but I don't want to disturb her (I think she plans on napping on my lap) and I also don't want to undo her loving on me 🫠
Aww that's so cute 💕
You pointed it out well that is really not that serious, you really cannot take anything seriously the more you experiment and see the truth because,
Well, it's not real!
As Ada said in an ask sometime "you people don't take me literally" 🤣
This is def what makes and unmakes it!
Your attitude is the fact. - Nisargadatta
The way you demonstrated this you can demonstrate everything.
do you manifest the same way as you would shift? i dunno how to apply this to manifesting
Manifesting implies a process in which you don't have something in order to get that something. But there is no process, because everything already is. Just become aware of the things that are already yours. That's it.
And yes, most of the things I 'want' come effortlessly without having to go through a process. It all depends on whether you identify with your true nature or the false self. The false self is always aware of lack. The false self thinks it is separate from the rest of the world. But you are the whole universe. Lack is just an illusion that makes you seemingly wait for your "desires". You create it yourself. Just as separation is an illusion. You created it all.
If you want a house, know that it is already your house, because you are the house (just a form of your consciousness). Like your right foot. It's yours, you wouldn't question it. Know it.
Heyy i'm the anon who sent that long ask, thanks for answering my question. You explain things so well, your posts are very easy to read. For some reason I feel connected to them :) so what i'm understanding is that you need to just stop identifying with the "ego" and accept that you're only the awareness, not connected to any of it, just experiencing it. All you have to do is to be aware of what you want and let go of the things you don't need (this reality for example) and this is very easy since neither the ego or reality IS you or connected to you, right? Shifting is only hard or takes long when you identify as the ego, but when you're only awareness all you have to do is become aware of it and it's instant.
(So sorry for rambling again, I can't help it since the topic is very interesting to me, hope it's not a bother to you)
I really try my best to explain the things I know, but sometimes I forget that many of you don't know the basics of ND and I have to figure out how to explain it as simply as possible :-D
First of all, you as awareness are connected to everything, because everything is you. The phone you hold in your hand, the friends you have, the food you ate. It's all you - just forms of your consciousness. The body you are aware of, the family or the people around you - they are all you. They all exist because of you. Nothing is ever separate from you. Any world or reality that you can imagine is just you. The source behind every seeming appearance is only you. Once you realize that nothing is not you, and give up the separation between the physical and the imagined, you as awareness can transform any form into anything you desire in an instant. You will realize that your life has always been a lucid dream.
When it comes to the “ego”: There's a quote by Rupert Spira that I really like:
“We do not have to eradicate a separate self in order to be knowingly eternal. There is no separate self to be eliminated. To attempt to dissolve or annihilate a separate self simply perpetuates its illusory existence. To discipline the separate self is to maintain the separate self.”
Calling the false self "an ego" makes it more important than any other form of your consciousness. But why should the ego be more important than any other “object” in your apparent physical reality? IT IS ALL YOU. Don't give importance to the ego and its thinking, but please don't ignore your responsibility either. There is a difference between indifference and ignorance. Simply notice everything that is happening around you. Be present. Stay in that awareness until you are fully aware of yourself. Once you do that, the rest is effortless. You can shift with just a thought. For someone who hasn't fully accepted that they are already pure awareness (which is absurd, otherwise you wouldn't be aware of reading this answer), they should really put their awareness on their DR and there's no way, you won't make it.
Please read this success story, it perfectly describes how you can align your awareness with your “desired life”:
Hiii Ive done the I Am affirmations and these are my results! I saw someone post on Reddit how they’d seen an amazing shift using I AM and other affirmations that I wanted to try as well. I was not only affirming through the day but sleeping on the feeling/knowing at night as well. I Also meditated but I really enjoy it so that was easy!
During the 4th day I could feel the shift, I became so indifferent to the 3D, you know when someone is like really calm that it’s scary? That’s how I felt. Like nothing phased me. I constantly would here and see people say that we’re God and that we create our realities blah blah, but that day it really clicked. Nothing is in my way, I can have everything I want.
I was at work this day and usually I hate being there but today I knew it was different. I got yelled at by a customer for a return and I was like whatever. During the end of the transaction I firmly stated “I AM” and the lady apologized for her behavior saying “I didn’t know what got into me” like right after I had affirmed. We only get 10 minute breaks but I was gone for damn near 30. I affirmed my managers wouldn’t say anything because “I AM” and when I came out the only thing they asked was “how my break was”. I also got my food and drink for free at the cafe downstairs just cause the barista felt like it.
My manifestations are instant there really isn’t a time lag. But that depends on me really, some things I’d prefer if I woke up and they were there rather then appearing in front of me, and other things I’ve revised instantly. I feel like I’m in the constant void? If I close my eyes and affirm for like less then a minute everything is still and I can’t hear anything around me. Like I’m really just consciousness with no physical body. It’s been like 2 months since then and I’m living my best life.
What I’ve manifested:
-clear skin
-desired Face and body
-Money+ a job in fashion that I really like
-money for my siblings and parents
-both my older sister having their college degrees as well as my degree(I dropped out of college like freshman year)
-revised that my parents were never smokers and are in perfect health
-my eyesight; used to be negative -6.5 but I don’t need to wear contacts anymore
-dental health, got rid of my cavities cause I hate the dentist
-moved to NYC/ got my desired apartment
-payed off all debts/ having no debts at all
-little everyday things like free food, drinks, parking, free flowers, literally super cute everyday things
-A new passport because I lost my old one
-shifting; I’d been trying to shift for damn near 2 years but I’ve finally been able to go to many of my DRs
-being able to manipulate time(slowing it down, speeding it up)
-dream wardrobe
there’s probably more but I can’t think of anything else. Just know that there isn’t anything I’m lacking or want rn, I have everything I can think of 😭.
omg this is absolutely amazing i love it!! especially knowing that everytime we are saying I am we are declaring we are god it's literally such powerful statement in just 2 words i absolutely love this success story and i hope it motivates y'all just as much as it did me 🥰
Since everybody is doing it... here I go.
This ask is gonna be long. I had no plans to share because it's so ridiculous to talk about successes in a dream when you recreate the dream every second and everything is a success. I'm not much on tumblr these days and only follow the backup.
Anyway, some backstory, there was an ask- I don't remember about what but maybe you can share it, in which Ada said "you feel yourself as you no matter what body you have on you" I sat with that a lot because one of my biggest goals since I joined the manifesting community was to change my appearance. I came to the conclusion that I am me and the body just happens to me, and that it doesn't have to be mine unless I claim it as mine. So that's what I did, changed my mind. The "manifestation" happened overnight and I had another body on me the next morning.
These were the kind of questions I had before doing it so I will answer what I think you may be wondering:
My family noticed no change, to them, I always looked like this and they treated me no differently.
Other people who weren't family but met after, of course only knew me as this body, and they treated me much different than how I was treated when I was in the other body. It made me realize how shallow people are, their perceptions of "me" changed completely.
With a change of body, I could say I also had a change of "brain" I remember how it was to be the other body in feeling, but this brain thinks and feels things in a more... detached way. I know I'm pretty and I don't have many thoughts about my appearance. To be honest, I felt a little bimbo-ish in the beginning because I wasn't used to being this... carefree in my thoughts. There's an ease now in the way I exist that wasn't there as the other body.
It's natural and normal to be this body and I act spontaneously in it like I've always been this body and know exactly how to behave as "this me".
I didn't recondition my brain or change my thinking I only changed my mind about who I was and let things happen. I remember Ada saying her manifestations happened, even back then with loa, when she "got ego out of the way".
My conclusions and advice:
It's not the same body, it feels entirely different on me.
This body you have now is recreated in your mind time and time again. To change it, you gotta stop imagining it's you.
You feel it when you've changed. You feel it in your body, in your heart, in your being.
Dare to think differently from before and ignore ego.
I don't know if Ada still checks tumblr but I'd like to thank her from the bottom of my heart. When she left, I sent her the most desperate email, I was completely crushed. I had a panic attack that night. She didn't respond and I realized I was on my own. I had no other choice but to try my best no matter the results. That was what she wanted, for us to be independent. There is no one and no thing that exists without you, act like it.
You guys are making my day.
Amazing explanations.
I think it should be this post
No. It's acting based on knowledge.
Acting as if implies you're pretending.
You're pretending in hopes something will happen if you act this way. It implies you do not have the knowledge, and doing this in order to gain it.
But after gaining the knowledge, why still act as if you are an individual?
If you know what you know and still continue to act like an ignorant person, that is your choice.
Lester said, you can only have it through your own experience. What he meant by this is only that it is a conclusion you arrive to through your own discrimination. If I tell you, you might not believe me - but if you inquire yourself, use your own logic, your own intellect - and arrive at the same conclusions - then the knowledge is now your own. Then you know it. It is yours. Even so, you should understand - it is only the mind who imagines it knows or does not know. Self is as it is, all the time. How can God study to become God? If you understand God is nothing more than your own being, and you are That alone - the work is done.
Ego already doesn't affect the Self, the practice of detachment and everything else is all so you arrive back to your natural state of being, unaffected and unrestricted.
The experience is of 'knowing', it is not something physical, something of the body. It's an intuitive truth. That's the best way in which it can be described with language. It is something understood so deeply, it can no longer be shaken.
When you say shifting with intention, do you mean like when you set an intention to be aware of ur reality, you visualise? Because you talk about imagination and physical reality is the same and plus unless you can shift realities physically, i imagine it will be imagination so is it that or both?
An intention is simply a decision like buying a coffee to go. I usually go to bed, think about what I want to experience the next day, and if I feel like it, I choose any desired reality or the one I'm currently experiencing, and the next day it happens. One thought is enough. I don't visualize, I don't meditate and I don't do anything else. I just decide and that's it.
As soon as you give up the duality that the physical is something other than the imagination, everything is instantly. But when you think that one is more real than the other, you experience a time delay. You think physical reality is real because you perceive it with your senses. The senses are also imaginary, and you are not the body. You are only aware of it. If imagination and physical reality are the same thing, then anything you want is instant, even in the seeming physical reality. (What LoA people call instant materialization; I don't like this definition but I think it easier to understand).
Okay bear with me with this question because I’m really confused and I just want to understand. So I read in non dualism that dreams, imagination and reality are the same, if I see them as the same what will likely happen? Like what will change? Will the world adapt both imagination and dream and see them as one?
This is a good question! :-) Dreams, imagination and reality are just appearances, all the same. None of them is more 'real' than the other. None of them is what it really seems to be. There is no difference at all. Dreams you have at night are no different from your waking life. Both are just dreams. Yes, your 'whole life' is also a dream.
When you realize that everything is the same and all appearances are just you, you can still live your life. The illusory world will not disappear. But you will "see" behind all the illusion. You will become lucid in your waking life. You will still dream at night, but these dreams will also be lucid. You don't have to sleep at all if you want to. Sleep is just another concept that people think they have to do. All of that is just an illusion.
hi, sophie.🩷 i'd like to share my success story. i know you are no longer active on tumblr so i apologize in advance for sending this ask. i've been waiting for the longest for you to turn on your anon asks again, i was hesitant to share this on my own account, since people on loa tumblr can get very desperate or attempt to harm you out of envy (i've seen it happen with too many people sharing successes), so i just waited for you to turn your asks on again and say it freely.
my journey with ND has been... long to say the least. it was only long because i refused to act on the truth as soon as i discovered it, when 4dbarbie was still active. i put it off because i was afraid of what would happen, i was afraid of truly disbelieving the idea that i was a person. that was really stupid. and the only reason i wasn't experiencing my ideal version of life.
MY NOW. many months later, but... at least it's finally over.
i don't hold anything in the mind, no memories, no thoughts about the future, my life is completely spontaneous and always in a state of harmony. i materialize things instantly. each time i have a thought about something i'd like, i experience. there have never been any exceptions.
this is not the void, this is your natural state. you don't need to be in any void for this to be your regular, everyday life. the only thing that stops you from experiencing this complete power and freedom is your mind, which is unreal. until you're ready to discard it you're not going to demonstrate much.
what holds you back, i know because it was the same thing holding me back, is the fact that you don't take the word 'false' seriously. the ego is false, all thoughts are false. nothing is real. nothing at all. this is all a lucid dream. it's all what you're saying it is.
thank you, and thank you 4dbarbie for opening my eyes. i admit, there comes a sense of superiority in regards to others from knowing the truth, and if others on the ND path have felt the same before, don't be ashamed of this feeling, it's just how it is. no reason to be ashamed, you worked hard to get here. with it also comes a weird compassion. i just pity them, the way i pity my past self but having no courage. no sense in dwelling on a non-existent past now. it's done. nothing has ever existed. nothing will in the future. all is now, if i want it to be, and all is my will. i think of you both as more my family than my actual family, which i was able to give a comfortable life to because of you. thank you, thank you. i will never forget you.
the concept of living life so effortlessly has never occurred to me in my life, and yet i'm living it. all from being lucky enough to be on tumblr... of all sites, at the right time.
after I dropped ego, the first thing i decided to express was a different body, it was pure intention. my mind was clear, doubtless, it was and always is now with god. i was lying in my bed, it was a slight thought of what i wanted my appearance to be, i got up and checked it out in my bathroom mirror, and there it was. there was no wow feeling, no ecstasy. i didn't cry, i wasn't happy. i was completely neutral. like a simple 'cool, nice'. i did it multiple times since then, i want to experience as many bodies as i can while on earth, i like comparing the different lives of different egos. but after the first body, i just set everything about that ego's life straight. i imagined everything being perfect, having enough money to live more than comfortably, my own apartment, funding my siblings' education, etc. the basic things everyone wants, i realized they belonged to me. and no, i don't work. i don't lift a finger to have.
this will sound too good to be true to many, but it's actually the sole reason you were put here on earth. to realize yourself. everything really doesn't exist. nothing is. the quicker you let it all go, the quicker you'll live an effortless life. the journey only persists because you won't stop thinking you are the person, you already are the Self, you have always been nothing but it. everything else is your own imagination, a lie you can choose or discard. wake up. haven't you had enough? there is nothing to fear.
I don’t think this one needs my input. :)
Proud of your courage and intellect 🤍