Because He Looks Like He Was The One Making Them

i have had to put great work into not trying to be bob the builder for a man that doesn’t even realize he’s the problem. it’s one thing for them to acknowledge they’re fucked up. after that they need to realize that they don’t have to be a reflection of the pain that was caused to them. i can deal with cold and standoffish, i can’t deal with lashing out at the slightest threat to their strong-face.

“I can fix him” I couldn’t fix him and I don’t want to. I think he grew prone to biting and scratching in order to get by in a harsh world, and to me his resilience is part of what makes him so beautifully himself. I could be kind to him, though. I could show him gentleness. I could, slowly but surely, in the same way one earns the trust of a skittish stray cat, convince him that my touch will never come accompanied by pain. That, around me, he can allow himself to be soft. To relax. I could be the one he associates with warmth and safety, the one he longs to be held by after a hard day. I could be his home.

this guy asked me to help him find a class one of the first days back and i was like “it’s like right there” and he was like “? someone’s in there and i think it’s another class” and it was another class. because after i personally walked to the room to see, he pointed out that the class was at 10, and it was literally 9:00. like yeah dawg there’s another class in there because yours doesn’t start for an hour, but it’s clearly still room 212.

bruh at 7pm if that don’t fwm

bro a single granny smith

prob not even that maybe michigan apple

maybe a unique take but i feel like “feminism” is one of those things that got misconstrued societally. so now additional semantics are necessary to have discussions about feminism, which makes those discussions even harder to have.

and being a “girls girl” is just an extension of feminism that’s also being abused, calling someone a “pick me” is definitely deserved when they in fact were putting down other women for “traditional female things”. i’ve only ever directly called something “pick me” behavior when this girl wrote a long ass paragraph about how much it sucked that most girls acted scared when a group of dudes ran up to them with a basketball, hoop, and camera in their face instead of trying to shoot the ball and “being fun”. pick me asf for so many reasons.

and the “my roman empire” is a woman’s way to relate to a man. it kinda shows that women aren’t always cooking up schemes when quiet and thinking, similarly to how men are often thinking about somewhat random subjects regularly, like the roman empire. it’s a joke all around because i’m sure men really don’t think about the roman empire that much.

and older girls clinging to their girlhood in modern society where it’s being taken from them at earlier and earlier ages seems super reasonable to me. and i could honestly see there being some kind of psychological or sociological reason behind that response. and this is an issue for men as well. the modern mentality does not foster youth, it corrupts them.

there’s good and bad people of any sex, and this kind of perspective (placing all of this in the hands of girls, seemingly those middle aged and younger, heavy on the younger) kinda contributes to the problem. as in- assigning thoughts and beliefs to the collective (not topical perspective but the points included to make it). in my opinion, in the ripe year of 2024, it shouldn’t matter if you’re a man or a woman in most contexts. some behavior is typical of a man or a woman but it’s not fair to equate social media trends to an assessment of what “woman-hood” or “girl-hood” are, were, or will be about. its individual, and neither of those two things truly exists.

i hate how "being a girl's girl" has replaced feminism. I hate that enforced conformity has replaced genuine compassion for and solidarity with other women. I hate how women call each other "pick me's" for not conforming to femininity or for daring to critique something other women like. I hate how we just keep finding new socially acceptable ways to bully other women for being unattractive or outspoken or difficult or complicated or weird or ambitious or for not performing femininity. I hate those front facing camera "comedians" whose whole thing is making up a straw-woman to make fun of. I hate the obsession with "girlhood" and clinging to being a girl instead of a woman. i hate "the girl version of the roman empire" and "girlhood" and it's just consumerism and I hate the characterised of girlhood as passivity, niceness, sweetness, helplessness and frivolity and I hate the revival of gender essentialism even as a joke!!!

LMFAOO