Being Aro-ace, I Can't Fully Relate To Her Songs But Like:

being aro-ace, I can't fully relate to her songs but like:

They're bops.

I found that sapphic relationships are slightly more relatable and so much more depth to them than all the straight songs that (in my opinion,) tend to be more shallow and misogynistic.

Some lyrics I can purposely misinterpret as aroace for example, "You can kiss a hundred boys in bars, try to stop the feeling You can say it's just the way you are, Make a new excuse, another stupid reason, You'd have to stop the world just to stop the feeling" like, similarly to other queers, we can try and be straight all we want but in the end we can't change who we are. Good Luck Babe was the first time I had a song that described the desire to want to love someone so badly but still be unable to, which I could relate to in a way that felt both beautiful and natural.

Pink Pony Club also had a bit of relatability because people still have expectations of aro-aces, like dating, kids, etc, and while we can want that, many of us have to have the confidence to defy that and live a life we want even if it will be a disappointment to our family. And even while we're happily living the life we want, our families may still think we're ruining our lives because even if they accept who we are, it's not what they value and it can be a struggle to let go of those beliefs.

I’m curious, AroAce people, what are your thoughts on Chappell Roan’s music? Personally, I’m a big fan and I love her stage personality and music, but as an AroAce, I’ve never actually felt anything she describes in her songs. Most of what she describes of relationships and flings sounds entirely uninteresting to me, but I want to know what other AroAces think.