Super Cute Movie. Couldn't Help But Share For Any People Who Are Not Aware That This Exists.

this post is for you. yes, you! you are so deserving of a good, happy, content life. you are so strong and resilient, and i am proud of you. you will make it through all this hardship and come out the other side doing better than ever.

I want to tell a story to the artists and would-be artists out there.

When I was 19, I made a large oil painting of the nerd I would eventually marry. I poured all my attention and care into this painting. It's the only art I have from back then that still holds up as a work I'm proud of today.

I entered it into a judged show at the local art center. It got an honorable mention. I went to see the show with my beloved model. One of the judges came up to talk to me, and highlighted that all the judges really liked the painting. It would have placed, except, you see, the feet were incorrect. They were too wide and short, and if I just studied a bit more anatomy-

I called over my future wife, and asked her to take off her shoe. Being already very used to humoring me, she did. The judge looked at her very short, very wide little foot. Exactly as I'd lovingly rendered it. I would never edit her appearance in any way.

The judge looked me in the eye, and to his credit, he really looked like he meant it when he said "Oh I'm so sorry."

Anyways the moral of the story is that all of those anatomy books that teach you proportions are either showing you averages, or a very specific idea of an idealized body. Actual bodies are much more varied than that.

So don't forget to draw from observation, and remember that humans aren't mass produced mannequins. Delight in our variation. Because it's supposed to be there.

Everyone please behold this baby tree:

It's so much smaller than the support posts, they had to secure it with caution tape.

reminder for y'all that liking oral sex and being willing to perform it aren’t requirements for being attracted to women.

you don’t have to like giving oral to be a lesbian.

you don’t have to like giving oral to be a multisexual who is attracted to women.

you don’t even have to like giving oral to be a straight man.

you are not required to like oral sex or to perform oral sex in order to “prove” that you’re “actually” attracted to women. for that matter, you are not required to enjoy or to be willing to perform any sex act in order to “prove” that you’re actually any sexuality or to “prove” that you’re actually attracted to anyone.

it’s okay to not like sex at all, no matter what your orientation is. and it’s okay to just not like specific sex acts. you aren’t obligated in any way, shape, or form to have any kind of sex you don’t like for any reason and you’re especially not obligated to have sex you don’t enjoy because there are people out here trying to say you’re not actually your sexuality if you’re not willing to have certain kinds of sex—none of this suddenly becomes untrue just because the sex act we’re talking about is performing oral sex on a woman.

it’s no less gross for a woman to try and pressure you into performing a sex act you don’t enjoy and don’t want to perform than it would be for someone of any other gender identity to do so and it’s not okay for a woman to tell you that you’re “not really a lesbian/not really bi/not really whatever” if you’re not willing to perform certain sex acts on her or on any other women. these things are sex shaming, manipulative, and abusive no matter who they’re coming from.

please remember that you’re allowed to have sexual preferences no matter what your orientation is. you’re allowed to say no to certain sex acts and have that respected. no one of ANY gender identity has the right to shame you for that or try to pressure you into performing sex acts you don’t want to perform. no one of ANY gender identity or sexuality has the right to deny your orientation based on your sexual preferences.

Draw badly. Write nonsensically. Embroider messily. Burn what you bake and cook. Get paint everywhere. Read half a book. Lose your mind for a bit. Plant things. Have faith in the process. Abandon 70 wood-carving projects. Get a kit and do some of it and never return to it. Get comfortable with sucking and losing motivation. Continue to create with reckless abandon.

some self aftercare tips for doms and subs!

don't put lotion on contact or rope burns, ointment first.

water will help, but juice has immediate sugar that can help with numbness or faintheaded issues, try not to exhert too much.

any sort of small salt based snack can help with nausea if climaxes are a bit too intense! nerves cross and it's a lot, it happens!

please don't chug liquids after this stuff, slow and steady will reguster better

have you taken meds? some people think about it most now, when the feelings are settling and a bit intense.

work out your hands, the amount of pressure in your hands can be the thing making the rest of you ache.

new clothes might help!

put something familiar on, music, a podcast, a show

take some deep breaths. if you have no one else with you, positive affirmations can feel very healing as self aftercare.

no bc the funniest thing on ao3 is how every fandom has personalized the ‘no beta we die like ___’ tag. bc sometimes it’s the most heartbreaking death and sometimes it’s the spilled lasagna from episode 4 and either way I’m dying of laughter