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Helloooo! I'm quite new to your blog, but in answering an ask, The Pastel Priestess said that you were raised by Ares? I've been trying to getting into working with him (he reached out to me after I called out to him a long time ago when I was just starting out in Hellenic polytheism), and I'm having a hard time figuring out what to do, just in general :')

I figured that i should ask you about it since you have extensive knowledge on him.

Hi!

Yes! I made a few videos about meeting Ares: (LINK) (LINK) (LINK) (LINK)

While I'm not "The" expert on Ares (that would be the ancient Greeks for sure 😅), I am willing to share what I have learned from growing up and working with Ares, aside from his first order of business being to teach me "How to Hug Gods:" (LINK) because I was a little kid with nothing but hugs, candy and apple juice to give as an offering, so here I go:

Ares is a lot kinder than he seems but since he can be terrifying in front of his enemies, he is often misunderstood in the same way that pitbulls and doberman are misunderstood. He cares a lot!Children and marginalized people are his biggest weakness.

If war was a person, Ares would be the body while Athena would be the head. Because of this...

Ares can be described as the god of defending boundaries.

He's quick to anger when someone has crossed a boundary.

He killed Poseidon's son because he raped his daughter which crossed a boundary. He fought Hercules who killed his daughter Hippolyta which crossed another boundary.

Even war can represent the crossing and clashing of boundaries.

One of my favorite Ares moments in modern media can be found in the show "Blood of Zeus"

When Ares finds and complains to his father about crossing a boundary Zeus had set for everyone, including himself. "I thought we were not to intervene, or does that not apply to you?" (LINK)

Zeus clarifies that he never technically crossed the boundary. When Ares finds out that he was wrong about understanding where the boundary was, he tells Zeus he'll be sure tell everyone else so the gods are clear about where the boundary is, to which Zeus tells him not to say anything to anyone but judging by the end of this next clip (LINK)

Ares' need to define and protect boundaries won priority over the request of his own father. These scenes are excellent examples of who Ares is as the god of protecting and defending boundaries.

He is a body guard who stands outside of a party in order to protect the ones he loves so they can peacefully feast inside without worrying about getting surprised by the enemy.

Ares is also a father that has shown to prioritize the safety of his children over his own.

Last winter I was fortunate enough to visit Athens where I fell in love with the Areopagus (Greek: Areos Pagos - Ἄρειος Πάγος) or "The Hill of Ares" (LINK) This was a place where Athens held court cases regarding those who had committed crimes against humanity, the law, the gods, etc.

Legend has it that this is the rock where Ares was taken to court by Poseidon for the murder of his son whom had raped Ares' daughter. Poseidon wanted Ares thrown into Tartarus but he was eventually acquitted. Despite the threat of angering one of the three kings (a god whose status was above his own and equal to his father Zeus) Ares still killed Poseidon's son for crossing that boundary with his daughter.

So I recommend talking to him about boundaries you might need help with or personal battles you might be struggling with,

especially if they're systemic like racism, misogyny, ableism, homophobia, transphobia, etc because Ares is the god of challenging authority which is why in myth he was often said to be despised by Zeus for constantly challenging he who embodied authority.

Ares is also a survivor

and can help you find a safe place in the middle of a panic attack, a crisis or a PTSD attack.

As someone with PTSD, Ares has taught me a lot of grounding techniques that have helped me see the signs of a coming attack before it happens. He even had my spouse check on me while I was about to have an attack in a different building but was thankfully called by Sky who was able to guide me through the steps Ares had told them to use in order to get me home safely because he was unable to reach me (PTSD can create mental blocks that make it hard for the gods to reach you).

He is fluent in handling adrenaline and panic attacks because war is chaos and his instincts guide his moves so he can flow with the madness instead of being trampled by it.

This is also why his first lessons were dance lessons. He learned to dance before he learned to fight because much like fighting, dancing requires one to go with the flow while listening to their body and guiding their moves in split seconds that don't leave much room for thinking. Instinct guides the dance floor like it guides the battlefield. This is also why Ares presents himself to those whose lives have become chaotic and in need of guidance to help them crawl out of the battlefield and into safety.

Talk to Ares about what's bothering you:

What aspects of your life require boundaries?

What is making you angry and why does it make you angry?

What are you afraid of?

Do you have a complicated relationship with a family member?

What injustices in the world are pissing you off?

Why do you feel so small?

Who took your power?

Where is your balance? Etc.

Have a very honest conversation with Ares, look up his lore, and ask yourself why you wanted to work with him in the first place and be sure to start there for a clearer map of where you want your spiritual relationship to go.

I hope this helps!

Dawn do u have any advice for people starting skz writing blogs?

Oh! I definitely do! I’ll put them under the cut uwu <3 These are all tips I wish I knew, ranging from garnering readers to how to deal with other happenings. <3

!!!; this is a fairly long post! also, I am no way qualified enough to be giving advice, these are just things I've learnt in my term of experience.

#1: Write what you want to see on this platform, basically build a niche for yourself.

So this is a pretty obvious and often said point, but write what you want to, and when you want to. If it's domestic AUs that you're the most comfortable with, write that! Of course, you can dabble into new genres to discover what your other interests are, but don't for yourself to write something just because it's a popular topic. When people find a fic of yours that they like, they'll most likely go to your blog expecting the same kind of stuff. <3

#2: Develop your own distinct style, be it in your blog, in your writing in your layout, etc.

Make your blog's aesthetic/layout as distinct as possible, so that it's identifiable. This just gives a sense of uniqueness to your blog, which oft attracts readers. Ofc by this, I don't mean you need to be a master at photoshop/editing to create amazing aesthetics — you can just use simple elements and blend them together in a way that stands out well. Personally, if I'm to be honest, aesthetics, general neatness means a lot to me. I usually wish for a blog to be de-cluttered have a good and efficient way of navigation without having to search through or dig in a lot myself.

#3: Use tags! On all of your posts.

Like I said in the previous section, I wish for a new blog I'm going through to have a good and efficient way of navigation. Use tags, not just on your writing, but all your posts. This can facilitate easier viewing of same posts grouped under one tag, plus if someone prefers to not view something in particular, they can choose not to by blacklisting. Untagged posts are honestly a huge pet peeve of mine dihfuyrharieuhr. That being said, use the correct tags on your post! This post has a good note on how to garner readers as well as tagging.

#5: It takes time for you to gain attention for your work, and it takes time for your writing style to develop into something unique.

This is honestly something I wish I knew when I started writing. I'd see all these blogs get so much interaction and anons and notes on their writing, and while I was happy for them, it made me feel insecure that maybe I wasn't as good enough for them...? fast forward to six months later, I had nearly the same amount of interaction as they did. So it's really all about working towards your way to create a distinct writing style, all whilst improving yourself. Don't be demotivated when you don't get interaction at first, because it takes time for your style to be recognizable and it takes a while to improve, so as and when you write, you'll get better and better! <3

#6: Interact with other writers' writings!

This is also something I wish I knew. interacting with other writers is a way to make new friends, plus give your blog some exposure. of course, that's different from clearly exploiting a blog's status for follows. Make friends with other writers, and reblog their writings (ofc, only if you read them and you liked them, don't force yourself to)! 99% of the time, whenever someone leaves feedback on my writing, I check their blog, and if their writing is something I like, then I follow them! So yeah, this site literally thrives off interactivity, so don't be afraid to interact with writers!

#7: When you're posting your writings, make them clean to look. They should be pleasant to the eye.

What I mean by this is that your layout should not be too compact, hard to read, or straight up painful to look at. Don't use those 𝓈𝓌𝒾𝓇𝓁𝓎 ass fonts, because half the time, they won't render on most devices, and they're often horrible to look at + impossible to read for someone who uses a screen reader. Don't use tinie font on your posts for the same reason.

And! Banners! They're a great addition to a fic, and make it attractive to look. I can't tell you how much a good, well made banner can affect my view on whether I want to read the fic or not. However, i have some negative points about it too. Don't make banners if you don't know how to, only for the sake of making them. This doesn't mean you shouldn't experiment, hell, my first banners were total crap. It of course takes time to learn editing (provided you have an interest in it), but my point is: a banner is used to attract attention to your fic, yet if you have a bad-looking banner, bad layout, bad presentation, (coming from me) I tend to not want to read the fic.

I think a lot of people don't tell new writers that layouts are very important. Most of the stuff is covered in that post I liked, but having a distinct, unique, neat (emphasis on neat — you don't need fancy banners and fonts, just make sure it's not painful to look at) layout really helps. Don't use overly contrasting color combos like this and make sure it is neat, and pleasant to look at. You want to attract attention to your fic, not make it hard to read. While banners and aesthetic photos are not very important, a neat lay!!!!!!out is very essential, to increase your reader count and actually ensure that your fic is readable.

#8: Just know that the number of notes your fic gets is all in your luck.

Just because you get less notes doesn't mean you're any less of a writer! Hell, I know so many phenomenal writers that deserve so many more notes. Your note count can depend on several factors, including (but not limited to) your posts not showing up in the tags, the genre you've written is not a very popular genre (that doesn't mean you shouldn't write it! There will be biases towards genres in the fandom, but write what you want), or the fact that this site is often treated like instagram. So if you get less notes on a fic, don't be demotivated! You have every right to ask for more interaction on your fics from your followers, but don't let it think you're any less of a writer.

That's it! If you have any specific doubts, feel free to send another ask, or a dm! <3

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