I come from a culture that has no nudity taboo - nudity is not considered inherently sexual, or somehow traumatising to witness. What that means in practice is that there is a clearly drawn line between sexual and non-sexual nudity. There is nothing wrong or inappropriate about nudity in a sexual context, and nothing wrong or inappropriate about nudity in a non-sexual context. However, it is 100% inappropriate to be nude in a situation where it is not obvious from context whether this is sexual or not.
I've seen random kids who briefly escaped from their parents bolt across a public park buck-ass naked after they were playing in the water fountain and their parents were in the middle of changing their kid from wet clothes to dry clothes when the small nudist escaped. Changing your small kid's clothes right there in public is ok because there is obviously nothing sexual about a child whose clothes got wet. But although people will have baby pictures of their kids in the bath or just running around the house like that because sometimes little apes hate clothes for some reason, it's considered common sense to not share those pictures on facebook mom groups and such, because you have no way of knowing who's seeing them, and that blurs the line of context.
It all boils down to the clearly defined context. Bathing nude in the same sauna with five of your co-workers at the office christmas party? Clearly nonsexual, therefore completely fine. Your friend-with-benefits inviting you to come over and opening the door in nothing but a doggy collar and the most porn-scented perfume? Clearly sexual, therefore completely fine. A woman checking her breasts for lumps in the gym lockers just before or after a shower? Clearly non-sexual, therefore completely fine.
But if you went to the bank today and there's some guy who walks in and immediately strips naked, doing his banking business wearing nothing but a deep smile and being clearly very content with this situation, you have no way of telling whether he's getting kicks out of this or not. There is no contextual reason for him to be nude. Therefore, that is inappropriate.
Then you go home and post on tumblr - as one does - going like "there was some dude completely fucking buck-ass naked in the bank today. That was fucking weird and I wish he had not done that." And someone immediately swoops into inform you that actually nudity is not inherently sexual or inappropriate, and there are cultures out there that have no nudity taboo. It's not fair to call somebody a freak for something like that, maybe that guy was just finnish.
"trans guy music is nothing but little softboys with ukuleles" I truly believe you people haven't listened to a single thing by Billy Tipton or The Cliks or Saahrg or Rocco Katastrophe or K's Choice or Schmekel or Ryan Cassata's heavier stuff or Resuscitate or Alright Gents or Nerva Puck or 2am Ricky or really listened to any transmasc person in general. Nice job infantilizing me though I hear the optics on that are great here. I also bet that Cavetown would call you a bitch
I only post when I feel I have something interesting to say. If I don't post I just don't have anything to say.
to trans men: you don't have to and can stop apologizing for being a man. it'll save you. you don't have to hate yourself for the approval of transphobic assholes like that. trans manhood is quite literally nothing to be ashamed of.
celebrating my 5 year top surgery anniversary today, so I wanted to draw something that reflects the bliss of feeling your chest for the first time. happy pride 🏳️⚧️⚧️💙🩷🤍
the world is a better place with trans men and transmasc people in it
Got an ask recently that called this pfp a "transmasc Emily" and I have not stopped thinking about it all day
Me Before HRT:
Me after HRT:
Trans Tips #10!
List off parts of yourself that you DO like!
I always see "oh I don't like this or that, I don't pass for this reason or another" ect ect ect (Also I'm totally a hypocrit for this) BUT
MAKE A LIST OF THINGS YOU DO LIKE!!!
In the process of making my Pfp, I had to think about what my face and stuff looks like, that makes it look most like me out of all of these options
MAKE LISTS OF THINGS YOU LIKE ABOUT YOURSELF
I have a mutual, I can't remember who, but somebody said they also did voice training, and (as a singer) they could no longer reach higher pitch notes
ID BE SO EUPHORIC OF THAT FACT!!! THATS FUCKING AWESOME!!!
I can change a tire! I aired my tires and had to change one recently!!! IM STILL LIVING OFF OF THE EUPHORIA OF THAT!
This post is derailing rapidly, so I'll move on to the example part of my post!
My lovely PFP in question! I used a stardew valley pfp creator to make it. I've only played a tiny bit of stardew valley, but @wizzom showed it to me months ago, and now I'm using it for my profile!
I had to select different characteristics that matched my face, and it made me think objectively about myself,
As an artist, I had to pull myself apart by my tiny details instead of looking at the big picture. Overall, I don't pass, my features work together to look at little more fem, but each characteristic made me feel better about myself
My hair is blue! Not really a masculine or feminine thing, it just is (it's also very grown own, so you can see my very long dark roots, but whatever)
My hair is wavy, very similar to my Dad's, which already makes me feel good
My hair is very long! I have been cutting/shaving my hair for the better part of 4 years, all through high school, and I'm finally letting it grow out. I feel like there's a nice punk element to it, but also, if my femininity was highlighted with short hair, may my masculinity be defined by my long, luxurious, wavy hair
I have sun kisses on my cheeks, bridge of my nose, and shoulders from repeatedly burning and peeling. Now they're very faint freckles
I am white, but I'm not super pale. I tan very good and will be outside more when summer hits. This is the closest I could get to my skin tone
I have very thick, bushy eyebrows. My fiancé jokes about them being patchy and fucked up near the ends, and that they're just very bold and wildly thick
I have a big forehead, also like my dad!
I have more of a rounded nose (Fiance calls it a snub/snoobie nose) which i get more from my mom
I have very, very dark brown eyes to the point that in the shade, people often can't tell my pupil from my iris. It's only clear in direct sunlight
I have some eye bags, I work and overnight/revolving shift at work, and just naturally have a droopy, depressed, tired resting face
I don't have a beard (YET), but in my dream post, this is very similar to the beard I had. In my dream, my beard was my natural brown, but this pfp creator wouldn't let me change the facial hair color. (Low key love the look tho)
I do have a giant brown leather jacket that I wear constantly, he's scuffed and fucked up, I got him from a thrift store, but he has personality and I love him
I wear alot of horror t-shirts, mostly black with red accents, which is why the shirt is that color
Also, all of my shirts either have a wide neck or I've stretched the neck. I have ADHD and sensory issues and can not handle shit touching my throat. I WILL throw up (same with tags, I rip them off of everything I own/wear. I just can't)
The character creator wouldn't let me add piercings, but I have 3 facial piercings. My right eyebrow, septum, and tongue ring
I have a wider/boxier/chubbier face shape, with a soft jawline. I have convinced myself that that + my big forehead makes me look more masc
I like to joke that I have those soft masculine looks that girls are jealous of (male long lashes, boys soft kissable lips, guys with big butts, ect) just to help re-frame how I think about that stuff
I have a very broad back, I'm working out more to try and build muscle, but I'm happy for my wide back
I can go on but you get the point. Everything i try and reframe into being masculine. It can be difficult with dysphoria, but I continue to try!
Anyway, please message me! Put shit in my ask box! Comment! Add your own traits that you love! Please please please please please interact I WANNA SEE HOW YOU SEE YOURSELF
i never see enough tips for trans women/transfem people so. here’s a video that came up about tucking :] (don’t worry she doesn’t use tape at all despite the thumbnail)
this is also prolly a good time to mention...I have absolutely no clue how to operate a picrew thingy whatever it is
i dont even know if I have access to it 😭
and also my Tumblr acc doesn't let me DM so I'm here 😭
And I didn't even see this ask! I'm so sorry it took so long for me to reply!
You click on this! It's the big, bold, underlined caption that says "The Picrew" under the first image
Apparently, it's an embedded link that opens the pic crew icon designer website, so if you just click on those words it should let you make yours!
Once you finish, hold down on the picture and it'll let you download it or copy to your clipboard
Then you can reblog with yours!
I'm excited to see what you'll make, lol!
This is the first in a series or Trans Stories I'm Willing To Share With The Internet, but it's about the first times I started to figure out I might be Trans!
When i was a young child, we used to have these neighbors that lived down the street. I tried being friends with the youngest of their family, who was still a few years older than me.
One day, we were sitting in the Den (like a livingroom that's one step lower than the rest of the house)(also maybe reffered to as a man cave)(I don't care) and I turned to the boy and asked
"Hey, if you didn't know i was a girl, would you be able to tell?"
I had started noticing that i had more "masculine" facial features (thicker eyebrows, broad shoulders, square face shape, my dad's big nose/forehead, ect.) At the time I was a little self conscious about this, but that didn't help the pang of hurt I felt when it was confirmed that I still looked "feminine"
Of course, he said "obviously," and we moved on, but for "some reason", I was deeply disappointed by this
This is just one of many dozens of stories I have like this
When I was even younger, i tried walking around the house Shirtless. No traing bra, no shirt, no bathing suit, nothing! I hadn't gone through any puberty, but that didn't stop my Dad and Brother from yelling at me! My argument was that they walked around shirtless all the time, why couldn't I? It's hot, let me take off my shirt too!
Nope! No, no, no. My mom had to quickly explain there's a difference between boys and girls and that I can't be shirtless, even around my family...
When i was in middle school (early teenage years for non Americans) I would dress more masculinly to "scare off anyone looking at my baby sibling" because I wanted to be a protective older brother
When I hit highschool, during the pandemic, I started experimenting with my hair and my freedom of expression. I buzzed it off at the beginning of lockdown so I could dye cool patterns into it, and as it grew out I kept the sides shaved and grew a mowhawk, dyed red ofc. But I had to attend classes again, with red liberty spikes, a black face mask, and new confidence. People in the hallways called me the "mowhawk guy". I wasn't even thinking about my gender identity at the time, yet I always felt this bubble of giddiness every time I heard about the "mowhawk guy" from my friends.
Maybe I was being made fun of, who knows, it made me happy
I've been mistaken for a man from behind, especially when I had shorter haircuts, and any time I heard someone call out "sir!" When trying to get my attention! I would live off of that high for weeks, if not months!
I started going by He Pronouns almost 2 years ago, but i told myself I was Genderfluid. I kind of used this as a crutch, so I didn't have to correct anyone...but I always have a secret preference for Masc Pronouns.
I've always shopped in men's clothing, the loose shirts didn't have corny slogans on them, the shirts weren't cropped, the jeans didn't hug anything, I liked the styles of old band tees and flannels...
Anyway, those are the times that stick out in my mind as the first few times I experienced Gender Dysphoria and Euphoria! Thank you for reading my ramblings, and if you have any stories of your own, please reblog and share! I love hearing about others experiences!
Can you please reblog if your blog is a safe place for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, asexual, aromantic, pansexual, non binary, demisexual or any other kind of queer or questioning people? Because mine is.
Li He/They/It Absolutely Unapologetically Dedicated to the most Beautiful Woman to have ever Existed
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