This Makes Me So Sad And Angry. Praying For Her And Her Family.

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thinking about the infantiliztation and/or formalization of 19th-century women's clothing to modern audiences

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our entire reference point for "wearing long skirts and outfits with decoration like lace, embroidery, appliques, etc." is either formalwear or fictional characters in children's media like Disney princesses. women's clothing is just so radically different now- not that those elements don't exist, but they're much less common in everyday clothing than they once were. some form of simple trousers and an equally simple top are de rigeur for everyday attire, and anything else is Fancy

combined with the fact- which is true! -that a lot of what survives to end up in big museums belonged to wealthy people, this ends up in wild assumptions like "basically our entire idea of what the Victorians dressed like is just Rich People Clothes really"

which has led to the eternal cry of "but what did NORMAL people wear?!?!?!" that will not be satisfied with real examples of middle or even working-class everyday clothing because it still looks too "fancy" to modern eyes

not Victorian, but a great example of this is what Abby Cox wore to portray a milliner (hatmaker) in Colonial Williamsburg. a working, middle-class woman:

(ignore the facial expression there)

this is the exact outfit she sported in a video that apparently got responses like "but that's just what rich women wore!" and it is, in fact, everyday attire for a working person. a person who worked in the fashion industry, it's true, but still

I had someone ask me about how to find examples of casual Victorian clothing because they were at their wits' end trying to research it. and I had to tell them that...what they were looking at WAS casual. in the sense of Clothing For Everyday Wear That's Not Especially Formal. there's nothing inherently formal, or exclusive to the wealthy, about a matched bodice-and-skirt dress, instep-length, with some trim. or even a trimmed blouse and skirt. obviously women working the absolute hardest outdoor, physical jobs might have adopted occupational trousers or similar, but we don't all dress like construction or farm workers all the time nowadays. why would they have back then?

Laundresses, probably 1850s or early 60s. Note that I can STILL date the picture based on their outfits and hair, and these are the furthest things from wealthy socialites.

Maid scrubbing steps, probably 1870s or 1880s. Note pleated trim on her skirt and what appears to be a peplum at the back of her bodice.

also, not all working women worked physical jobs any more than we do today. here is a teacher around the turn of the 20th century:

Teachers, 1887

"Breton Seamstresses," 1845, by Jules Trayer

were there differences in quality, type and quantity of trim, fit, etc? obviously. but some people are convinced that the basic outfit format can't POSSIBLY have been something ordinary women wore, because it looks formal and/or princess-y in a modern context

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I like exulansic's content about the complications that arise from medical transistion but I can't stand reading the comments. It's always the same mean-spirited comments of "welp, that's what those idiots get for mutilating their bodies lmao".

I can't understand being gender critical and having such contempt for transitioners. My motivation for being gender critical is that I want to help these people. I don't want to see them suffer. How can any of them claim to support detransitioners when they literally mock and lack compassion for those who went through surgery and HRT? You can't talk about the lack of proper informed consent in "trans healthcare" but also deride trans people who get "neo-vaginas" or top surgery because "they should've known what they were getting into".

Do you actually want to see these people get better or do you just want to stick out your tongue and say "I told you so"?

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ancient greek word of the day: κακοθερής (kakotherēs), unfitted to endure summer heat

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I love the color pink so much, but I hated it when I was a kid. I feel like every girl who likes pink now has a similar experience, now that I think about it.

I specify how my last name is spelled because a lot of people mishear it as "Roger" or "Roser". In fact, one time when I was a kid, I wrote a letter to the president. The letter I got back addressed me as "Ms. Roser", despite my name being written out in the letter when I signed it.

iykyk-

For example, if you're speaking to a receptionist at a medical practice or calling idk your insurance company

I was going to specify "the first time" but then I realized I'm actually more likely to spell my name automatically if I know they're looking it up in a set of records

champagne coupe or flute? satin or lace? tiger or leopard? diamonds or pearls? dolls or mannequins?