Sayang, 

How Not to be Disappointed by Other People

How many times do I have to tell you, Vic? Never expecting someone abundantly!

It’s not literally their fault, unless they promise for nothing. Here here I tell you to do better:

1. Make your points clear to avoid misunderstanding and unnecessary assumption from both parties.

2. Giving trust is not a crime. Some people deserve trust but some of them could ruin it. So, keep checking to assure they’re in a right track, but do not be aggressive. They need a space too.

3. Forgiving is ok, yet if they break more than once, you’d better think do they deserve the second chances.

3. Separate personal and professional matters.

4. The world does not revolve around you, put yourself in their shoes.

5. Any situation could happen in a blink of your eye, so keep calm. Then, anticipate what you can control.

ARIES SEASON 2023

From https://www.instagram.com/bernadettebijou/

Bekerja  Lebih Keras. Bekerja Lebih Pintar

Walau kemarin aku tidak fokus benar, namun aku dapat maknanya.

2023 kami akan bekerja lebih keras.

Bukan aku namanya, kalau tidak terpikirkan skenario terburuk. Ancaman resesi ekonomi sudah menghantui. Amerika Serikat, Eropa, dan Cina kabarnya sudah mengalami. Kata Bu Menkeu, ini hanya menunggu waktu.

Selain bekerja lebih keras, aku harus bekerja lebih pintar.

Efisiensi, efektif, dan taktis. Itu yang harus aku implementasi.

Gimana kalo kita berantemnya sambil ciuman?

Aku capek dengerin ocehanmu

im your emotional sponge

i met a girl from Bandung, named Tami. We had a good convo (i think good here bc she could absorb my feelings)

"you are a very emphatic person. Be cautious it can be your own weakness".

Somehow it's true.

And also I expect a person can respond to me as much as I do to them effortlessly. Her name is Kharis, I owe her an apology. I used her to be my emotional sponge bc she fell in love with me. it never be wise to take her for granted. I was toxic to her. She's a pure soul and deserves love (hopefully she finds someone who treats her right). If we ever meet again in another life, i won't mind being her soulmate.

let's go back to the main topic. being an emotional sponge to others means you have the skill to acknowledge their feelings. im unlearning that everyone's feelings matter since in this cruel world, boundaries should exist. you should be able to distinguish whether things are tolerable.

i am completely done with accepting that being compassionate is not a sin. i have to put in "right" amount, dont I? wont blame my placements (yes, my sun - moon - risings are all water signs), this is something i can manage to.

Here a good tip for an emotional sponge like me:

"Visualize A Glass Wall

There are a number of techniques that you can use to keep other people’s energy separate. One technique includes visualizing a glass wall between yourself and the other person. The glass wall allows you to see the other person’s emotions. However, the emotions are not able to penetrate the wall. When they hit the wall, they bounce back to the other person, not to you. You can see and acknowledge the feelings, but you do not absorb them. This technique can work in large crowds as well. You can picture yourself surrounded by a glass wall as you move through the crowd. Although you may notice their energy, you do not have to take it on as it cannot get through the wall."

Please check here if you need guidance: https://keirbradycounseling.com/empath-and-absorbing-other-peoples-emotions/

If you’re avoiding something that scares you because it feels like too much, you never learn to overcome your fear and live more freely. Some forms of avoidance cause additional problems also; for example, binge drinking regularly whenever you’re sad can have some lasting consequences.”

(Psych Central)

Kayaknya aku capek deh... I am feeling overwhelmed.

Overwhelmed karena kok request nggak pernah abis, overthinking, dan nyinggung time managementku :(

Semoga kita mencintai dengan berani