Open And Honesty

Open and Honesty

I feel compelled through messages I've received and comments that have been made in conversations for my next blog topic. Some men I feel sometimes think I'm being pushed into trying this lifestyle, and some men I feel think this is a "Hitch"esque teach/trainable thing my husband did with me.

I can assure to all who may think that, that neither of them are true. My husband is not and has never been a pushy person. He has always told me to go at my pace no matter how long it takes, and even if it does just remain a fantasy he’s perfectly O.K with that. We’ve been committed to each other going on 14 years, we’ve built that foundation of understanding and trust to be able to open up our relationship. This isn’t something someone should be pushed into. With that being said we opened up about trying this lifestyle two years ago, 2 years for me just getting comfortable enough and feeling out “playing” around with other men. Honestly at first isn’t an easy task, if felt wrong for a long while, took awhile to reprogram my brain to say this was O.K and my husband was fine and liked it. Not to mention the creepy guys who go after vixens, the filtering process is painful. 

I’m going to go at my pace to make sure our first experience is a good experience and not a negative one. The men I talk to I’m always open and honest from the get go, this is not a rushed thing for me. If topic or things are brought up that make me feel uncomfortable or I’m not into, I always let people know. I feel its just so important for all parties to just be open and honest just to make sure everyone happy and has a great time. I also want to feel the trust and insurance that if I cant go through it, or I try but need to stop he will immediately. Not that I have a problem flooring some guys for not listening and putting him in his place, I just dont want a tainted negative experience to wreck a potential chance to try it again a different time. Ya know?