Tried To Talk About This With My Mom But She Just Does Not Understand 😪😪😪 It's So Frustrating

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It's easy for me to tell people to erase Harry Potter from their lives, because I'm not a fan. It didn't change who I was as a person, I didn't grow up with it and it doesn't help me cope with life.

I dont know what it feels like to have something like that, and then be in the situation that interacting with it supports transphobia/transmisogyny/racism/antisemitism.

If you don't experience racism or transphobia or antisemitism it might be hard to make the connection. To feel strongly enough to severe every feeling you have for it to where it's easy to drop. You might feel strongly about the situation, but might still struggle with liking the content and wanting to find a way around it.

But interacting with the content has real world consequences. You talk about Harry Potter publicly, post fic, you are keeping her relevant.

And that gives her power and access to more people and thus helping to spread her bigoted rhetoric.

So I might not understand what fans are feeling with the situation, and I know for some it helps you get through life. But thats why you need to focus on her bigotry. Or make some effort by finding something to turn you off of it.

You have to connect things visually for yourself, about the bankers with hooked noses to the nazi drawings of Jewish people. Compare that visually.

To the transmisogyny she spews to the trans women and other trans people she's hurting, and the bills she help support. Sometimes you have to actively look at someone right in the face and then think of the discrimination they are facing due to something you like in order to remind yourself that this is real life and not just words on a screen.

When we love something or it's helped us, it's hard to sever that connection, even in extreme situations.

But that's why you have to work at it. You can't just assume you will naturally fall out of the thing you like because racism is bad. It should, but I know things can be complicated in the brain. Which is why you have to be active about it.

Eventually, when you think of Harry Potter the bigotry in it will stick out too much and it won't have the magic it had before and that's okay.

Also there are people posting alternatives, so you have new series to try and help you make the switch. Ones you can be loud and proud loving.

I see a lot of posts on here rightfully upset. But I realize most aren't fans, and most don't use it as a coping mechanism

And this post isn't coddling. It's to the people who might feel they aren't addressed in the other posts.

So this is for the people that had the book help them not kill themselves. Who kin the characters or the characters helped keep them above water. For people who are comforted by the story. Who helped them through bad things in their life.

For people who feel that if they stop interaction with the fandom and series, that they don't really know where to go and that they will feel empty and lost.

And to some this might seem ridiculous but some people need to have a post like this.

If you're this person remember that the words and the world's and the personalities and the wonder can be found somewhere else. And that this book had helped you and made you feel happy for a while, and that another series needs to take that place.

You don't have to go cold turkey and get rid of all your stuff and delete your fics and fanart

But you CAN try the other stories, get into a new series and remind yourself that moving on and switching over is the right thing to do. Eventually it'll be your new hyperfixation and your new comfort series that makes life easier

Jk rowling is a bigot in many ways and her books bare traces of that. When people see you talking or interacting with the series now, they will wonder "do they support rowling?" and I don't think that's what you want

So yeah. Just explore other series and find new stories that help you, make you feel happy and giddy and obsessed! And know that whether you feel it or not, you would be helping to make Jk irrelevant and thus making a bigot not have as much power. And I think thats good.

TERFS/RADFEMS/TRUSCUM/TRANSMEDS WILL BE BLOCKED

But I would actually be fine being stuck in a luxurious 20 million dollar mansion with a large pool, a tennis court and an elaborate garden maze for months on end.

It’s like when that prosecutor argued against house arrest for Felicity Huffman and showed a picture of her massive house: “Not being allowed to leave here is a punishment!?” 

Feminists: What Were They Thinking? (2018, dir. Johanna Demetrakas)

“I loved you for so many fucking years, but you know what? You didn’t exist.”

—Johnny Depp to Amber Heard, in a recording presented as evidence in their recent defamation trial.

“The most rage provoking element of being a female is the gaslighting that happens when for centuries we’ve been expected to absorb male behaviour, silently. Silent absorption of whatever any guy decides to do. And oftentimes when we, in our enlightened state or our emboldened state, now respond to bad male behaviour or somebody doing to something just out of line, that response is treated like the offence itself.”

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This. THIS