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i love xenogenders because they reveal how arbitrary gender symbolism already is.
we can say ‘my gender is space, cool rocks, and curiosity.’ 👽
is that any more strange than saying, ‘femininity is empathy, flowers, and the color pink’? 🌸
gender is what we make of it, whether practical, picturesque, poetry or prose <3 💖
[ID: the above text in a facebook post by MC Perrin, along with a symbol-less version of the xenogender flag: stripes in dark pink, salmon, pale orange, pale yellow, blue, lavender, and magenta. /end ID]
CW: artistic nudity!
And also anthropomorphic(?) bee (Mostly human)
Sorry if my handwriting is bad. Her name is Deliah and goes by She/He/Bee!!! Bee is a transbian that has a paper wasp boyfriend!!! (it calls him bee-utiful all the time) His nicknames include Buzzy bee, Honey, buzz, Eli, Lilah, and beebee!!
Haha get it. Transbian. TransBEEan. More like uhhhh transbien!!!
I love fat women!!!! Five billion more years of fat, queer, gnc beauties!!!!!! Five billion I say!!!!!!!!!!
Ok y’all, I need you to drop links for free binder services. It’s November which means that parents won’t think it’s odd for their children to request that they not inspect packages. They’ll simply assume it’s a present for whatever holiday they observe. So please do your part by dropping links in the reblogs and trying to get this seen by those who need it
edit: k, so I mean this in nicest way possible. Liking isn’t going to help anyone. This isn’t just for me, other people need these links. If you if you can’t/don’t have the energy to find and post links to ACTIVE donations. Please at least reblog so someone who follows you can. Please and thank you <3
Using ambiguous labels/being unlabeled has genuinely been so freeing for me as a queer dude.
I get that for some, more specific labels and identities are affirming, but for me, when I was still trying to find "my label" ©️ I ended up constantly questioning every feeling I had about myself, my gender, my attraction, etc.
I became obsessed with finding the "correct" collection of terms that could fully encompass me as a person.
But I can't be contained in any number of labels. No one flag or idenity will truly be able to tell others who I am. Only *I* can tell you who I am.
I'm genderqueer, trans, and achillean. What does that mean? Just ask me! Let me use my words and my experiences to connect with you and tell you who I am.
Anyway queerness is beautiful, and I am beautiful, and so are you, no matter how you choose to define yourself.
Trauma is werid bc how do i explain that i dont go by a different bc im trans (im gnc) but bc i can't stand people calling me smt that sends me into a panic.
Like guys jm not detransitioning i swear im just getting comfortable with me as a concept
the way I relate to this soooo much <3
Gender is so weird guys
I'm one of the girls, I'm a girl's girl and I'll cry if you say I'm not, but I'm not a girl's girl.
I'm also Just Some Guy, y'know? I'm a little weirdo, a freak, a little girl with dirt on his knees and fire in his eyes.
I'm her husband but I'm also her girlfriend.
I'm neither a man nor a woman but a weird recluse writer who lives on the edge of a cliff where its always stormy.
I dress like an alt older brother from an early 2000's movie but also like a 90's lesbian (sometimes it's the same outfit).
In conclusion, labels are weird. I'm a boyfriend and a girlfriend, a husband but not a wife, a girl but not a woman, a guy, a man, a friend.
All that being said, he/him and they/them are still very much my pronouns (never she/her).
Peace and love!!
Just because I don't mention something doesn't mean I don't know what it is,,, (refering to egg culture) and there's nothing in homestuck that shows the characters excommunication people for not being any certain gender or forcing people to be a gender. No characters are forcing any labels on june.
And I'm sorry anon went through that, they deserve sm better. I myself am agender. I get how hard it is with people not respecting your labels and pronouns. I genuinely hope they find people who accept them and if they have already found those people then I'm glad
Keyword is try though. You cant rewire a person's brain to think a different way, at least not when it comes to things like gender.
If this is about viewing June as nonbinary then you're free to your interpretation. June is a trans character. Nonbinary is still under that transgender umbrella, even if it's not necessarily mtf or ftm
xx-cringe-factory-xx And vriska, while yes, does have a habit of pushing people to do things before their ready, she can't force a guy into being transgender. No one can!!
... So who's going tell them about egg culture? Or the sheer amount of trans people in the community pressuring their GNC friends into being trans? Or all the detransitioners that get excommunicated at gunpoint for not being trans anymore? Or all the parents that are making their toddlers and young children trans because they wanted to play with trucks or wear dresses that week? Detrans people and the detrans experience is not terf rhetoric, y'all just think that way because the only people ballsy enough to make safe spaces for detransitioners are terfs and the small minority of fence sitters.
Vriska would be the exact type of trans person to force people to "discover their truth" aka harass and beat and batter and bruise them into something that'll finally fit into a trans mold.
And before you go jumping down people's throats, I am very nonbinary, very pansexual, and very panromantic. I'm also biologically a dude. I have had times where I've wanted to go around wearing a dress. I have had times where I couldn't decide if I wanted a gown or tux when I got married until I watched Steven Universe and got my answer from Garnet. I don't force GNC people to take on my truth because they're not nonbinary! And I sure as fuck don't let trans people say that I'm a hardline MTF instead of nonbinary, because I know that's not right for me. It doesn't stop the fact that I had an entire friend group chanting "break the egg" every time I said or did something feminine over chat. I thought I was a woman for three whole years because of that and I hated it, I hated how miserable I felt the further I went into femininity. I got so fucking sick of it that I left. I've got three partners now who all respect me for who I am, and their friends are equally chill with me. So yes, people CAN try to force people into being trans.
@xx-cringe-factory-xx
I wish I was an already established male character so I can be as fem as I want but the narrative will never refer to me as anything other than he/him
i love being t4t I love gender nonconformity... i love girls who arent girls and women who are men and people with a million xenogenders and dykefags and femme trans men and butch trans girls. nothing is sexier than someone who spits in the face of the gender binary, and our very existence is not conforming to gender ideals
mfers will be like "transmascs are privileged because no one cares if a girl crossdresses" as if stone butch blues is not a book full of horrific state violence against that exact thing & the ways it impacts transmascs
Like these if you want to smack me🍆
Genderqueer flag outfit<3 + trans hair
Considered giving them a white jacket but I don't really like white clothes tbh
grenda(n) with the trans coded jacket this season is warming my lil gender non conforming heart <3
In the Mishnah, Rabbi Yosi makes the radical statement: “androgynos bria bifnei atzma hu / the androgynos he is a created being of her own.” This Hebrew phrase blends male and female pronouns to poetically express the complexity of the androgynos’ identity. The term bri’a b’ifnei atzmah is a classical Jewish legal term for exceptionality. This term is an acknowledgement that not all of creation can be understood within binary categories. It recognizes the possibility that uniqueness can burst through the walls that demarcate our society. The Hebrew word bria (created being) explicitly refers to divine formation; hence this term also reminds us that all bodies are created in the image of God. People can’t always be easily defined; they can only be seen and respected, and their lives made holy. This Jewish approach allows for genders beyond male and female. It opens up space in society for every body. And it protects those who live in the places in between.
Rabbi Elliot Rose Kukla and Reuben Zellman
Tips for figuring out your gender plz 💔😕
Sad thing is even for the femmes, from men at least its still "aww you're my dumb little sweetie pie, I can take advantage of you"
Can't win with misogyny, whether you're a good product or a bad one.
people treat gnc women like absolute shit and i did not realize this until i went out femme literally like twice and suddenly im everyone’s little sweetie pie. what if gnc women want to be little sweetie pies too :( why can’t we be nicer to gnc women
Before I delve into the issue of this, I need to discuss my pronouns discourse because this is important to what I want to say about this.
Preview:
(If you haven’t seen/heard about it yet, my pronouns are considered cultural appropriation because the word Fae comes from the Celtic people and therefore I can’t use them since I’m not Celtic, even though if you do your research, 1. The term didn’t even come from the Celts, and 2. most Celtic/Pagan people don’t care/like it when you use those pronouns???)
Anyways, onto the crux of the problem.
As someone who uses Fae/Faem, Fae/Faer, and She/Her,
I dealt with a few people who not only regards my pronouns as problematic because of the discourse, but also those same people who only ever uses the She/Her pronouns because I still present/align/identify with mostly feminine orientations.
Look, if I ever talk to you, one of my most repeated phrases would be “please use Fae/Faem (and/or Fae/Faer pronouns depending on my mood), those are my preferred pronouns! Though it’s okay to also use She/Her!”
But SOME people don’t understand the importance of me stressing that, instead opting to willingly ignore that and ONLY use that set.
I’m fine with that, I’m perfectly fine with being referred to as She/Her, although granted very annoyed.
But recently, it’s gotten to the point where I’m just straight up considering on ditching either all of my beloved pronouns sets, or one of them which then instantly gives me dysphoria because whenever I think about getting rid of one, let’s say one of my Fae sets, (that one is my MOST PREFERRED pronouns) it sets me off and instantly gets me into fight mode because I want those sets but my mind says “you can’t though, it’s not normal to society-”, and I hate it, I hate that I have to PROVE that I can use them, I hate that I have so much of cisheteronormative ideology shoved into my head from media and society as a whole.
I hate that I have to constantly correct/say to people to try to use ALL of my pronouns sets.
Like I understand if you don’t understand how to use it in conversations f2f and/or in text forms, or accidentally mess up with using them at first.
That’s understandable, it’s fine.
But I wished you TRY to use all of them for my sake. I wish you COULD use all of them, and you definitely could, but instead you choose the “easier option”.
Ignoring it.
That’s not flying by me anymore.
The only reason I’m adding my two cents here right now, is because I want to add my own opinion, my own beliefs into this mess because I think it should be said out loud for everyone to see and read over.
Please TRY.
Please TRY to use ALL of my pronouns.
It isn’t even that hard to just TRY.
Really, all you have to do is TRY to use all of my pronouns. If it’s really hard to get used to/understand, just ASK the person on how to use it and/or if they have links to HELP you on how to use them. I’m sure that person, as well as very much me, are more than willing to send those links/help out.
It isn’t that hard, go try it out yourself.
Sorry for the long mess of thoughts, gotta say it from my POV.
Thank you for reading all of this, enjoy your day/night.
- Seri’s Ted Talk.
Reminder that if someone uses multiple pronouns and one of them is usually associated with their agab, don't only use those and not alternate between the others, especially if the person in question has a preference for their other pronouns that aren't usually associated with their agab.
I feel like there's kind of this idea that "Oh x person uses pronouns that might be used on them because of the way they present or their agab, it technically isn't misgendering since they use those certain ones, so I'm just going to use the pronouns I "associate" the most with them!" Like no. Use those pronouns because that's their pronouns. If a gnc/queer woman is using he/him and she/her, use both and if they have a preference for one, use that certain set more. Regardless of how YOU personally feel about them.
Same goes out to she/her and he/him gnc/gay men. Use people's pronouns because that's what they want, that's what makes them comfortable, and you should respect that. Don't let your internal biases get in the way of that. Folks like me who use multiple pronouns, notice when someone uses one set more than the other because they probably have a set image of me in their head that mostly feels akin to misgendering me and or misinterpreting my identity and why I use the pronouns that I do.
Stop assuming things about people. She/her simply is she/her. Same goes for he/him. They/them. It/its. Etc. Literally NONE of those equal a certain gender, alignment, presentation, or identity DESPITE popular cisnormative beliefs. You don't know why someone uses the pronouns that they do right off the bat (don't pretend like you do) and folks aren't obligated to tell you either. Even if you find out, don't let that sway your mind/opinions on anything about them cause that can lead you to misgendering them other ways. Don't let cisnormative norms and ideals surrounding pronouns, get the better of you.
Tip for my followers:
If you want the large pockets of men's pants, but think you're too curvy to fit into regular men's jeans, try looking into men's joggers instead. They're wider in the hips, have the pockets you're looking for, and still come in all different types: jeans, cargos, chinos, sweats, etc to suit your style/needs.
Hope this helps someone :)
i really look forward to when we separate androgyny and gender non-conformance from thinness
androgyny does not have to be thin, white, and eurocentrically attractive
I probably blocked most of the people this is relevant to, but a transphobe cannot be an ally to GNC people.
An ally is an ally to people who might be. They do not withold support until a peer-reviewed study has proven that they are, and they do not create an environment that prevents someone from discovering they are not.
Being GNC is not a pipeline to being trans. Nevertheless, there are quite a few trans people who start of GNC, before discovering it's not just how they want to present. An ally lets someone discover which one they are on their own terms. They do not say "you are trans, you're just in denial". They do not say "you aren't trans, that's mental illness".
Actually, even more wild is the number of TERFs looking at this post and thinking "This post agrees with me". I am literally asking for a space where people respect other peoples' gender identities. A person who defines their political stance on how they don't respect certain people's genders is not welcome in such a place.
Call it queer infighting, but I feel like a safe space for GNC people should not have people who insist that being GNC is a pipeline to being trans.
It's been wild seeing all the people immediately jump to calling this transphobia. I am literally asking for people to respect other peoples' gender identities.
I even very specifically did not say "trans people" in my original post, because the problem is not and never was trans people. (In fact, I'd say a GNC safe space needs to let trans people in for the same reason any queer safe space, including GNC ones needs to be able to let cishet people in--if it's not a safe space to people who are questioning, it's not a safe space)
I wouldn't even go as far as attributing this behavior to trans people. When it comes down to it, the people themselves are not the problem, it's their behavior.
The problem isn't trans people, it's people--of any identity--who think that, for some reason, the phrase "you should respect other people's identities" does not apply to them.
Call it queer infighting, but I feel like a safe space for GNC people should not have people who insist that being GNC is a pipeline to being trans.
Call it queer infighting, but I feel like a safe space for GNC people should not have people who insist that being GNC is a pipeline to being trans.
Edit: TERFs fuck off. You are just as bad when it comes to respecting people's gender identity as the people I'm complaining about.
I don't like derailing my own post, but since so many of you people have shared this, it's too good of an opportunity to pass up.