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The Balance Between Realistic and Unrealistic Relationship Expectations

Entering a relationship often comes with a set of expectations, shaped by personal experiences, societal influences, and media portrayals of love. However, the line between realistic and unrealistic expectations can be blurry. Understanding this distinction is crucial for fostering healthy, fulfilling relationships. This article explores the differences between realistic and unrealistic…

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Look. I don't want "Enemies to Lovers"

I want:-

Enemies - unwilling allies - getting closer due to fighting together more - admitting to friendship - pining - realising their pining - distancing themselves as to not ruin the friendship - "B" getting upset due to "A" distancing themselves - a fight due to "B" confronting "A" distancing themselves - "A" frustratedly admitting feelings - "A" running away out of fear of rejection - "B" standing there shocked for a few moments before running after "A" - "B" finding "A" in a spot special to the two - finding "A" crying from thinking they ruined the friendship - "B" comforting "A" by saying that they didn't ruin anything - "A" rambling on about how they thought they did - "B" cutting "A" off by kissing "A"'s cheek - "B" confessing - "A" slowly blinking in disbelief - "B" joking saying "Are you just gonna sit there blinking at me, or are you going to kiss me already?" - "A" quickly kissing "B" that turns into a makeout session - Lover

None of this straight from this to that, I want development in the characters feelings!

(sorry if it's hard to read/understand lol)

Reaching Out breakdown Part 1 : Luz & Amity

Last ep was AMAZING. Best ep of the S2B in my opinion, seeing as the show (so far) has suffered a bit from trying to put 2 plotlines in each episode (I don't hold it against them seeing as Disney is cutting them short), plotlines that weren't always cohesive or could appear to take time from each other. But the last one ?? *chief's kiss*

To start off : we are still left with 2 plotlines (even more we could say) but as they are all focused in the same place, the overall pacing & the episode itself is way more cohesive and it allows them time to let everyone have their spotlight & development without any frustration. There are even more plotlines than the previous ep and it is still AMAZING. Because let's review, we have :

Luz struggling with the aniversary of her dad's passing + still reeling from the ramifications of not being able to go back home

Amity trying to relate to her dad, fighting for her future and suffering the consequences of Luz's inability to reach out

Eda scheming and attempting to get informations out of the warden Wrath regarding Raine & the Day of Unity

Edric feeling useless, overshadowed & out of place compared to his siblings because of his "jack-of-all-trades" disposition that isn't highly valued by most of the witches world.

Development of Amity's family in general, through making Alador more of a character with his own failings (neglect) different from Odalia's downright abusive and controlling behaviour, and showing more of Edric & Emira's personnalities.

And all of the plotlines went together swimmingly, which I really really loved ! Like, my fav character is probably Hunter, I really liked Any Sport in a Storm, but I can't tell you how much I appreciated Reaching Out. It made me love & care soo much about Luz & Amity all over again.

Point n°1 : The Lumity, and Luz & Amity themselves, were absolutely amazing. I absolutely love these girls' relationships but was personally sorta dissatisfied with their intervention in Any Sport in a Storm... Mostly because I don't really care about the Luzura books and thus this subplot really didn't speak to me. THIS EP THOUGH ? Both of them really shined, as HUMANS with mistakes to their name.

-> Luz, for starter, is an amazing teenager. She's friendly, curious, full of energy & compassion. But it's also refreshing to let her make mistakes & be imperfect : in this episode, she wasn't. She was going through a really hard time, and inadvertently used Amity to distract herself from it even if it meant only ''pretending'' to be doing this for her & inadvertently causing her trouble in the end. The episode acknowledged it, but didn't bash Luz in any way for it. Because we as humans are a complex canvas and wonderful people can make mistakes, can hurt people. And it doesn't make them any wonderful as a package. Luz, in general, has a problem (similar to Eda) with sharing what's bothering her. It's 2 times in a row now that she's failed to share with Amity what was on her mind and brushed her off, and this time really managed to show how hurtful it can be as the other party, even if Luz doesn't have any ill will while doing this. This episode allowed Amity to be upset over Luz (however inadvertent) hurtful actions & how her tendency to run away from her emotions can come back to bite her in the back later.

Luz acknowledged what she did was wrong, that she had reasons but not excuses, she even let herself express some ugly feelings; and she genuinely apologized. She allowed herself to be weak and to share what was bothering HER, all while admitting that her way of coping wasn't healthy or fair to Amity. I loved that, not because I hate Luz but because she's a teenager, she will make mistakes as we all do, and what she did showed an incredible emotional maturity. I am only proud of her <3

-> Amity got another episode to shine again as her own person, to explore her aspirations for the future outside of her realtionship to Luz, and how she felt about her other parent. She was allowed this episode to be disappointed & upset over the turn of event, and to show how Luz's inability to share her problems was hurting her girlfriend (both mentally & in more concrete ways). At the same time, Amity showed incredible care & gentleness because these two love each other and Luz had a damn good reason to be feeling down and out of place. A concept I heard in a Cinema Therapy video is called "putting it on a shelf" : it occurs when (in any kind of relationships) both people have something they want to do or say, or both have an issue; but one of said things/issues is way more important at the present time and so you put "on hiatus" your own situation to properly take care of the other. Amity this episode made a great use of this concept, and showed herself to truly be an "Awesome Girlfriend".

Amity listening intently to Luz and dropping the judgment as soon as her girlfriend opened up, as well as taking the time to reassure her that she LISTENED, she HEARD and she definitely CARED for what she was going through was an absolutely amazing show of love; and I appreciated that so so much.

In conclusion : an incredible Lumity episode, that doesn't hesitate to tackle some very real issues with honesty but kindness. These girls are still growing, they're bound to make mistakes. But so long as they care about each other and vow to do better : they will be okay.

Part 2 with the other plotlines incoming !